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rosalinas · 6 years ago
You don't have to go to university
But at least finish high school or whatever you're in
Finish what you start
At least try
guest_ · 6 years ago
Hello Dr. my .02? Depends. Trades and tech can pay very well and require skills, not degrees. Certain other fields as well- if these are your areas of expertise for employment you may be fine, but it never hurts to have a degree. Any degree. Do the math on what you need to pass each class. Figure which are salvageable. Then GO TO THE COUNCILOR. Discuss options. Go to your professors and discuss options. If there's no choice- dump the class(es) with no or the least hope to save what you can pass- or dump the unseeded classes and focus exclusively on what you need most for your major or what would be hardest to redo. Going forward reasses. Many 4 year schools take community college credits. Find out when you TALK TO THE COUNCILOR of your school does. If so, you can gain flexibility and a cheaper source of credits. Next- is your major for you? Is it realistically achievable? If the choice is no degree or a bullshit degree go for bullshit. Many high paying jobs and executive/management....
guest_ · 6 years ago
.. jobs take communications degrees for instance. If there's a "bullshit" or arts degree you have a good amount of credits for, consider switching up. Finishing is top priority. Degrees open doors. Then- RESEARCH. Find out the "easy" professors and classes. Throw some on your next semester schedule. Figure out who doesn't give homework or does light homework, who doesn't care about attendance etc. set up a schedule that you can nail. Set it up so you can't lose. Then: steel your mind. Decide you are getting a degree. You've put in work. It's been hard for you. Don't waste it. You're young, trust me when I say now is the easiest and best time to go to school. You can always go back but that's harder as you get older. Your goal here is hit as many transferable credits as possible, and do the heavy core major classes first. If shit goes down and you leave early, 20-40 elective credits part time while working is fine. You just do music, PE, language etc on weekends or evenings one....
guest_ · 6 years ago
Or two classes at a time. It's like taking paint or cooking or pottery for fun but you're working towards a degree. If you knock out the heavy classes while full time you won't have to get off a hard day of work and then go do quantum physics after and have homework. You can just do chill stuff to relax. It will take you 5-6 years total to get your 4 year degree having knocked off most of your credits before going part time, but better than the 8 years to never it will be for most people working full time and trying to get a degree. OR- synergize. Find a certificate program that feeds credits to a major you can achieve. Do the cert and hard classes. If you need to leave school you have a bankable credential that fed credits to you. Now you work in a related field to your major gathering connections and experience and can part time school. Sometimes you can get credits for work in a field as well. Talk to a councilor. Look for options, look for financial aid. Anything.
guest_ · 6 years ago
Last tirade. You can do this Dr. it's hard, that's an understatement. I'm here telling you from outiside and you're there going through tit and I don't know what it's like, but I know it's hard, and I know you can do it. A degree opens paths to success that are otherwise closed and makes the climb easier but t isn't the only way to success or a guarantee. The degree isn't a measure of ability to siceeed though. Life is all about hard things and difficult choices. Its about being given impossible, often conflicting requirements and being judged on how you see them through. The key to success isn't in smarts or most talents- it's in being able to find a way to win when you set a goal, and setting up the shortest fall when winning ain't in the cards. Go own this. Make it your bitch. To the world that degree is no different than anyone else's but to you it will be a constant reminder that against all odds you saw it through, that you can make your goals. Make this a goal and go kill it.
dr_richard_ew · 6 years ago
Thank you all for the advice. I have until tomorrow to decide, so I'll see what happens
funkmasterrex · 6 years ago
What'd you decide? I know what it's like to lose that much work; and now you know to triple save all your shit.
If you aren't going for any sort of degree plan I'd say stick with anything STEM related; you're employer most likely won't give two fucks if you don't know Joan of Arc from Saladin... but If you can't do math they'll care.
dr_richard_ew · 6 years ago
I think I'm gonna just drop it. I've already tanked the entire class, it's not like I'll be able to bring that mark back up, and I have better things to stress about than it.
Thank you all for helping me decide!
funkmasterrex · 6 years ago
Well... if you're going to tank it... go out with a bang good sir. If you know you're going down, do it in style.
dr_richard_ew · 6 years ago
I never really wanted to go down in the first place, but I don't have that much of a choice with the amount of work I gotta get done
funkmasterrex · 6 years ago
Nobody intends to screw up; I suggested that just so it would be on your own terms and perhaps give your mind a little ease. I'm confident you know what is best for you though, so do that, whatever it is, good sir.
deleted · 6 years ago
So, what are going to do now Doc?
deleted · 6 years ago
What about your family? How did they took it?
dr_richard_ew · 6 years ago
With any luck, I hope my family doesn't find out
deleted · 6 years ago
Dude, you gotta tell them. It's a really big decision.
dr_richard_ew · 6 years ago
I know, but they don't understand these sorts of things. All they'll do is (metaphorically) slap me across the face and tell me to smarten up
deleted · 6 years ago
That's everybody's parents but, if you think that you can live better without going to university, then convince them. All they want is, for you to have a better life.
guest_ · 6 years ago
I'm not trying to countermand spooky or get up in your business. I don't know your family and you do. What I can say is that they will find out. Once you take on a secret, that means lies, omissions, and making sure you never speak any truth that would betray the secret. If you're on your own dime then it's easier to hide and less their business. If you're receiving support and your family is the sort that telling them may jeopardize that, it might be better to hide it if your Le planning to finish up. But if you're paying your own way then it's your decision and your money. My traditional line is- "if you don't like the way I'm doing things I would be happy to let you pay, take responsibility, and I'll do t your way. Otherwise...." In general though communication is best. If people don't know what you're going through they can't understand. They can't help or support you. But like I said- you know your family best and sometimes less is more.
purplepumpkin · 6 years ago
That's a good thing that you've made up your mind dr. The situation may still be a bit confusing now, but I think it'll be clearer in a few days when the stress has decreased. Easier said than done I know, but now that you've taken a decision it can only get better.
Regarding your family, I know relatives can be really harsh sometimes, but are you sure they won't support you? Maybe you're overly stressed right now and projecting your anxiety on them? If you're sure of their reactions though and don't want to tell them, maybe wait a bit until you have found a source of income, so they'll see your decision as mature and responsible and won't be pessimistic about all of this. Keep it up man!
dr_richard_ew · 6 years ago
I guess. Idk, they're so anal about school, so I feel like telling them I'm dropping a class will make them super mad at me. They've said be fee they're not too distressed with me leaving college, but they still expect me to pass everything