I didnt want to date him because I was once friends with his ex(and also didnt want to get threatened by her friends). This guy then promised me a lot, then my male bestfriend started pushing me to date him(I refused to) saying he was good for me(dont know if that based on the fact that the guy's rich and "prominent"). It's been like 3+ months later now. I'm not in that school anymore and this guy still really wantd to date me. What should I do?

@guest_ Thanks. I'll let you know how it goes.

Well, if you like him, go for it, but if you're uncomfortable then don't date him. I'd you force yourself into a relationship you're only going to make things worse on yourself. Dont be afraid to say no

@fell_equinox Ok. I dont feel uncomfortable about him though. Just dont know if it will lead to issues if I consider dating him

Maybe hang out more and see where that leads

Well A him to all of us in the convo. And we'll set him straight.

@fell_equinox Ok!
@this_isntme I dont understand what you mean

It was an @ but it became an A. The point was we are here for you.

First off, the ex friend sounds like a manipulative piece of work. I wouldn't worry about owing her any allegiance just because the guy used to date her. She used and abused you both and moved on, and you're both allowed to move on as well.
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I don't know how often you encounter her friends, or how bothered you are by their behaviour. It sounds like they've already bullied you in the past, so them bullying you now would not necessarily be new. I do know they don't deserve to have the power to dictate who you let into your life just because their own lives are so pathetic. But people can be cruel. So whether you want to risk it somewhat comes down to whether you think the relationship will be worth handling the level of harassment you'll receive. Tagging @guest_ because this seems like another topic they'd be able to answer more thoroughly than I am

I don't think it's fair of your friend to push you to date someone, whether he thinks he'll be good for you or not. He's probably just trying to help-- you sound like a bit of a reserved person (and there's nothing wrong with that), and he probably just wants to help you come out of your shell. But even so, YOU would be dating the guy, not your friend. He thinks the guy is a good guy, and that's very good to know. It always helps to get the second opinion of people you trust. But you kind of need to decide for yourself based on what you feel.

Keep in mind: you're not planning a future with this guy at this point. There's no wedding bells or any kind of obligation. You shouldn't feel pressured in that regard-- at any point you're allowed to say "this isn't working out" and walk away. Going for a date is nothing more than testing the waters. Sticking a toe in rather than diving off the deep end. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. No harm no foul. But you still want to be able to have some level of enjoyment. The last thing you want is to be dating this guy because your *friend* wants you to

I think the best thing to do would be to just take some time and block out some of that other stuff (as best you can). It's white noise. Forget your ex-friend. Forget her friends. Forget your friend.
Try and zero in on this guy.
Ask yourself some questions.
What do you know about him? Do you LIKE what you know about him? Do you find him attractive? Do you have any common interests that you know of?
You may have a very short list of answers to those questions, and that's fine. You can learn more about the guy as you go if you decide to (that's kind of the point of dating).
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But If you can't look at him, based on what you know, and seperate from all that other stuff with, and say "this is a person I think I could like" then the rest doesn't matter
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(Sorry, long reply on my part)

@fell_equinox Thanks :)
@xvarnah Ok. I understand you. And dont worry, I wont date a guy because someone said I should. I do feel bad for avoiding this guy when I ran into him a while back. He seems to be patiently waiting for an answer and it's been about 5 months now(if I can remember exactly). He did message me on social media a few days ago asking he if I could meet up with him when he's back in town. And it's ok with the long reply :)

This guys been waiting 5 months? OK Princess he's not been waiting. He's maybe a good guy. But 5 months? He might be future saint. But that's a bit of a pull. 5 months.

Anytime

@this_isntme Hmm I dont know. I know he was waiting for an answer but I dont know if he was 'keeping himself busy' for a part of those months. Not putting my mind on it though

@fell_equinox :)

Does it matter if was 'keeping himself busy'? I mean, no one should wait forever for an answer.

@laughwendylaugh That's true

I'm really close to turning down meeting up with the first guy(the one I was over thinking about meeting with). And the second guy and I spoke (the one that's in my old school) recently. He says he wants to date me. And he's now friends with my siblings