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randomfandomgirl
· 8 years ago
I feel this so much. I had a friend, and now he wont speak to me because i found a girlfriend who isn't him.
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thepacifist
· 8 years ago
What did you expect? It's not your fault. But it's not his either. If someone falls for someone there isn't anything they can do about it. If you get angry at them because they got hurt, you're just revealing how selfish you are in the first place.
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randomfandomgirl
· 8 years ago
Oh, I'm not angry. I just want him to move on so he finds someone who appreciates him more than I can. He deserves someone better then me.
thepacifist
· 8 years ago
Ok cool. Most people who complain about that are angry their friend wouldn't just be friends. That's what ticks me off. Sometimes that's just not a possibility anymore. Kudos to you for being understanding.
summer
· 8 years ago
Dude, I was so deep in the friend zone with someone I KNEW was my soul mate and it fucking hurt so bad. I watched him date other girls, date my best friend, fall in love. But I knew what would hurt more is not even being able to see him so I chose to be is best friend over anything because at least I got to be part of his life.
guest
· 8 years ago
That is a very LOSER like mentality and way of thinking. If more people were like you then no one would be with their soul mates. That is toxic to you specifically to your self esteem.
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summer
· 8 years ago
Okay so you wanted me to force him to like me? Don't think I didn't try to be with him I did, but our friendship was more important.
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summer
· 8 years ago
I put his happiness before mine because honestly nothing made me happier than him being happy. That's what love is. I did that for 3 years and if I can do it and not bitch and complain about what a dick he was then I'm sure others can too.
deviledapple
· 8 years ago
i think guest made the point HORRIBLY but if you are not letting go of this guy something is going wrong on your end its not healthy
naughtybear
· 8 years ago
I personally find the beleif in "the one" to be idiotic. By that logic your "one" could be across the world and you'd never meet them. my point is, its silly to think that someone is your "soulmate". clearly they arent if it hasnt worked out and it looks like it never will. move on and stop making yourself miserable.
guest
· 8 years ago
We have the hit it and quit it zone so just cuz we have sex with you doesn't mean we're obligated to date you. There I've said it.
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deviledapple
· 8 years ago
the issue is hit it and pretend you wanna date when you just wanna keep hitting it. just sex is fine unless you are pretending to be wanting more.
guest
· 8 years ago
Yes!
domoclan12
· 8 years ago
We don't care that we get rejected, life goes on, but when a girl friend zones you then comes up and says "I wish I could find someone like you to date" and complaining about her boyfriends being jerks, we get a little pissed
deviledapple
· 8 years ago
i have difficultly buying this common narrative that men try to date girls, get shot down, and then have the girls repeatedly tell them they wish they had a man like them. i know when i shoot down a guy i am around a lot, like a coworker, i make a fucking point of not even hinting around at liking things about them or having shitty boyfriends or anything to dangle hope at them, because its UNCOMFORTABLE even for the person who shot you down. "omg i wish i could find someone like you to date... lol but not you tho" just not buying it.
domoclan12
· 8 years ago
If you believe it or not it's what happens so that means you yell at guys to get over being frindzoned when you don't even know what's actually happening
deviledapple
· 8 years ago
it means nothing of the sort, because even if it HAS happened, it is NOT a common occurrence and all the men whining about friendzoned have CERTAINLY not been "victims" of this scenario. i've been "friendzoned" before and instead of hanging around hating the person and calling it loving them i grew up, moved on, and looked for a new lover.
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domoclan12
· 8 years ago
It is a common thing and the reason guys get mad
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guest
· 8 years ago
A girl isn't obligated to date you. The girl, OTOH, shouldn't accept gifts and other things that are part of dating if she doesn't want to lead him on.
shurikkaru
· 8 years ago
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again this is the wrong interpretation of "the friendzone". All these posts discrediting it are like the radical feminism man hating posts that label that as true feminism.
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pebbleinthepond
· 8 years ago
"Radical man hating feminism" has a proper name: misandrism. By even calling it "radical feminism", it discredits true feminism.
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thepacifist
· 8 years ago
Shurikkaru speaks the truth.
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shurikkaru
· 8 years ago
and posting all this nonsense about Guys just being whiny discredits what the friendzone really is. It's that point in a relationship where the love and affection of one is completely disregarded by another, do to not wanting to soil a friendship, or even them not being interested, but the key thing about it is the one persons inability to stop loving the other, even when their affection is not returned. It's not a place for people who can't get laid, it's actually quite heartbreaking. There are lots of modern film and literary examples of such a scenario
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stream_42
· 8 years ago
And here we have a great example that people don't doe vote because of the content, only by what's been said before. Shurikkaru's last comment is correct, that's what o think most men consider the friend zone. I hate it when other assume what we mean and basically tell us "no this is not a thing because WE said so, you don't get to call it this". Yes we do... So please fucking understand this: it's when either the boy or girl gets reject and it hurts, not because you don't get to have sex, but because your heart is hurting and you know you will never get to hold them and cuddle. And if the answer to this is "get over it" then I say "it's not that easy... Please".
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