Then he/she is or wants to be more than a friend, all I'm saying, There is soo many great things to share with a boy/girlfriend, but if it does not include "some" sexual activity, and if it was cuddling in a less than first base way, then its friends, not boy/girlfriend. So by definition unfulfilled sexual desire gets you in the friendzone, cause otherwise you wouldn't call it a zone and/or complain about any aspect of it.
Even a "romantic" relationship does not work without at least the mutual imagination of sexual activity. Also my definition of "sexual activity" is maybe a little wider than average.
Don't they enjoy to touch and being touched? Or think and/or be thought of (by) another in a very special way? Again: my definition of a sexual acitvity is pretty wide, cause it encloses everything and every thought you would only share with your significant other. Even an "asexual" couple will have things they only do or think in relation with each other and not anyone else.
I really get that, but then they wouldn't be interested in a boy/girlfriend relationship, would they? So would an asexual person, who doesn't like "any type of sexual thing at all", complain about being friendzoned? Cause that's where this started...
ajhedges: if you said this in the right voice with the right face, it would be sexual af.
I don't think they are. Sexual attraction is a commonality between all sexual reproductive beings, romance is evolutions way to organize this phenomenon for human beings and the specific requirements of their progeny. We, as the reflective, adaptive and most creative animals have our ways of finding fancy words and appraisements for the equivalents in our and other animals behavioral principles. The reflective part makes sure we see the parallel, the creative forces makes sure we can construct the distinction and the adaptivity helps us to act the bevavior out in all societys in history.
Also, your assumption is in no way an answer to my questions. Heres what Wikipedia says: "Concerning romantic or emotional aspects of sexual orientation or sexual identity, asexuals may identify as heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer" Just replacing the word "sexual" by "romantic" does NOT make that big a difference. Same circuits, same hormones, just one detail different.
Oh yes it is, just cause you feel it's different doesn't mean it is. See my edit while you were writing your reply. My point is: why would someone who defines him/herself as asexual (according to your definition) complain about being friendzoned?
I've heard plenty of asexuals talk about this so it's a bit more than an assumption. And to answer your question, because they can still feel romantic attraction and might want to be someone's boy/girlfriend/partner. You don't have to do sexual things with your romantic partner.
What does mutual attraction lead to? Contact of some kind which is a "sexual thing" when it gives you any sort of special feeling. A "sexual thing" can be so much more than you can obviously imagine. Most 60/70+ year old couples live a life without any "sexual things" whatsoever, while they may still feel the same as when they were in their 24/7 phase.
ajhedges: if you said this in the right voice with the right face, it would be sexual af.
Also, your assumption is in no way an answer to my questions. Heres what Wikipedia says: "Concerning romantic or emotional aspects of sexual orientation or sexual identity, asexuals may identify as heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer" Just replacing the word "sexual" by "romantic" does NOT make that big a difference. Same circuits, same hormones, just one detail different.