Anyone else feels the same way?

I agree, the only person who should be competing with your comfort zone is yourself. If you expect people to chase you and compete for you, then make yourself someone who deserves it, or else they are going to be very dissapointed in who you are when they win you over. If you're too afraid to leave your comfort zone for someone else, I guarantee you don't deserve the people willing to break down your self-made walls to get to you. Its selfish to make others vulnerable while you stay in your happy little comfort zone, that's not love you're protecting yourself while you string them along.

If you think solitude could be better than their company, you don't deserve them. If you feel this way, you never need wonder why your relationships fall apart, it's your own fault.