Sad we're losing more good people everyday. Sometimes the weight of the world gets unbearable, we lose sight of the bigger picture. I know this feeling all too well, the world gets a little darker every day until you can't see what's ahead.
I feel a bit differently.
As we gain more and more of the "bigger picture", and more light is shed on the world, it can be difficult finding reasons to stay.
P.S., exactly 4 people would cry.
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· 6 years ago
I'd like to add : At one point in my life, I tried to end mine as well and fortunately it failed.
The thing is I had no one back then but I want you all that might feel like it to know that you are not alone, you can always come and talk to me or anyone. I know how much things can be hard, but a listening ear and a moral support can help a lot.
We are here for you, we love you
Yuki, you seem to be a good person to ask, I have no people skills but I like to think of myself as an emotionally stable person, but I can't for the life of me comfort unhappy people, could you give me a few pointers, starting at comforting 000, not 101, my current method includes hugging and listening but that's about as helpfull as disco-lighting while trying to catch cats
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· 6 years ago
Well, I can't really tell you how to do it since it changes according to the person and kinda comes naturally but you have a really good start.
Listening is one of the most important point in my opinion 'cause most feel like they can't talk to anybody.
Also, ask questions, lots of it, about smol or big stuff, make them talk, make it sure that they know you understand them.
And let them know that they're not alone to go through whatever happens to them.
Just that is a lot to help someone, you're doing a lot by yourself Sirvi and it's great.
Thanks yuki, I allways thought that saying others have the same problem came across like "Stop your crying you're not special." Also I thought that keeping their mind off it would be best so that's what I've been doing wrong, I'll try it out first chance I get, thanks!
As someone who is not super emotionally stable, can I toss in my two cents?
When someone wants to comfort me it always helps to hear that how I feel is okay. Because for a long time I thought something was wrong with me and how I felt was bad and I needed to do better because I was a failure (still do a lot of times) so just hearing that it's okay to feel scared or unhappy and having some reassurance that someone is on my side can make a world of difference.
Just recently went through a lost of a close one to suicide. And heard of others from people around me. Seems like is more and more now. It is I guess "cool" or sometimes funny to joke about it, but the reality is that it is the saddest thing. Think of the pain you could cause. If you need help, seek help please. You can always turn your life around might take time, but you can.
Also if you feel this way, have a close look at your family as well. Sometimes it's hereditary. My grandpa, my father and my brother all had failed suicide attempts. The first two I only learned about later, but the two times my brother nearly died broke my heart.
What if you feel like this, but you can't express your feelings correctly, so it comes off as attention seeking? Then your partner gets so pissed off with you acting like this that they don't like talking to you anymore, so you end up dumping them. Then you regret it more than anything, so you feel even sadder..
Try talking to a doctor about it. Sometimes a partner needs to hear it from a doctor to understand how serious it is, and you will get professional help.
Also, it might nit be the right partner. Maybe he or she was great but not for you not at this time. I struggle w depression and my partner is great support. It helps, but also we nees to learn to be look at the positive around us
Maybe not fot now. Maybe you need time for yourself. That is ok. And sometimes it is a great time to think about you, your goals, what do ypu want to do and how you want to feel or anything you need to work on.
The son was 60. His mom is in her 80s and though her mind is all there she is unable to cook, clean, do shopping, or any of that she can clean her self and feed her self but she has trouble doing chore like work. He never complained about doing the work he loved helping her so it has us all stumped that he just left her like that.
If anyone ever needs someone to talk to I'm always here. It can stay anonymous and I'd like to point out that I won't just sympathise with you for ages, I will ask questions and I might even disagree with you on some things but I don't judge and I'll never ditch you or anything no matter how much you are struggling
We need to remember that those feelings WILL pass....they seem to go on for ever, with no end in sight, but they do pass. And it can be hard to reach out, aometimes you dont have enough space in your brain to even think about talking to someone. And some people already know its what they want to do, and no one will stop them, and they dont want to talk or be talked out of it. Its incredibly sad for those around to see or know that.... but I am glad my husband walked in on me about five minutes before I was going to hang myself a few weeks ago. I was mad at the time, but looking back I'm glad i'm still here. Bi polar can be cruel, even on the right meds. We all need to be here for each other, and not tear each other down. I am glad that there are people who do care..... :-)
Thank you for sharing this, I am so so grateful for this community you are all extremely precious to me regardless if I know you or not. The difficult thing about depression is it's usually hidden so take an extra minute to make sure you tell your friends and family you love them. Thank you all for making this a safe place for me to come and laugh and talk.
It's a hard burden for everyone to bear, not just the remaining living. Feeling suicidal is horrible. It feels like it would be worth the relief of dying, and even the pain caused to others doesn't outweigh the need to die.
As we gain more and more of the "bigger picture", and more light is shed on the world, it can be difficult finding reasons to stay.
P.S., exactly 4 people would cry.
The thing is I had no one back then but I want you all that might feel like it to know that you are not alone, you can always come and talk to me or anyone. I know how much things can be hard, but a listening ear and a moral support can help a lot.
We are here for you, we love you
Listening is one of the most important point in my opinion 'cause most feel like they can't talk to anybody.
Also, ask questions, lots of it, about smol or big stuff, make them talk, make it sure that they know you understand them.
And let them know that they're not alone to go through whatever happens to them.
Just that is a lot to help someone, you're doing a lot by yourself Sirvi and it's great.
When someone wants to comfort me it always helps to hear that how I feel is okay. Because for a long time I thought something was wrong with me and how I felt was bad and I needed to do better because I was a failure (still do a lot of times) so just hearing that it's okay to feel scared or unhappy and having some reassurance that someone is on my side can make a world of difference.