It's true that what they are doing isn't in his business (when it's in his business)
I'd have done the same, simply bc I enjoy fucking things up and it'd be hella of a show to see the wife show up and catch them
Who knows, maybe she was the one setting it up <.,<
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· 5 years ago
I applaud this. Cheating on people is a horrible thing to do. My father cheated on my mom after almost 25 years of being together and he's torn the family apart. He blamed mom for reading books and was pissed off when she broke up with him.
If that was my husband who was cheating and this is how I found out I'd be grateful honestly. Grateful that someone finally told me and there was no more sneaking around.
Surrre, when all those posts come out of guys covering for their cheating friends nobody bats an eye, but one person calls the cheater out and suddenly it's a big deal.
I mean, maybe it's technically not their place, but I support the decision anyway. It's not the husband's place to put the wife at risk for stds, external pregnancies, and all the other fun things that can occur with affairs. Not to mention wasting both of their time. If the wife wants to stay with him after finding out, that's her business, but she has the right to an informed decision
No? It's still not their fault he cheated, and it's not their fault she responded with violence. Gun stores aren't even held responsible if someone buys a gun and shoots someone with it, and they arguably have a much greater reason to believe what they're doing will end in violence. If the people around you are demonstrating that level of insanity on a regular basis where you live then idek why you live there
An abuser is still an abuser, hotel person isn't responsible just because someone decided to do something bad. The wife would still be in control of her actions and no one else can be blamed for what SHE decided.
Technically all they did was send a thank you card. Which a lot of businesses do. If the husband can lie convincingly enough, he can go on being a terrible person. For all you know this is standard protocol at that establishment, and the person just happened to kill two immoral birds with one well placed stone.
It's a hotel, not a brothel. It's not the hotel's job to cover his tracks for him, either. Not like the person installed cameras in the room and then mailed the pics to the wife.
Immoral or not, its still not your goddamn business. Maybe the guy cheats because the wife can't give him what he wants and it keeps him from ruining a family. Maybe litterally everybody is better off with this secret being kept.
It keeps him from ruining the family? Yeah. That is a logical explanation. "I cheat to keep this family together". Any believability to your post went out the window because of that idiotic remark.
It doesn't matter what the consequences of your actions are. You have no right to poke into a marriage like that. Too bad YOU think he's an asshole. Not his problem. Do your f*cking job, give him a room, keep you trap shut.
They didn't exactly "poke," he broadcast what he was doing the moment he stepped outside with the person he was having an affair with. If the hotel had seen him heading up to the room with a bunch of drug paraphernalia, they are within their rights to call the police. If they see a guest wandering around with a dog that's been on missing posters, it's not their obligation to NOT call the owners, just because the person currently in possession of the dog is staying in the hotel. And yes, before you say it, in some places adultery is still considered illegal.
Hotels are hotels. They are not your lawyer, therapist, or priest. You are not guaranteed confidentiality in any activity that occurs outside your room. Nothing was stopping the dumbass from switching hotels once in awhile, OR from having his mistress book a separate room.
Those are crimes. Cheating isn't a crime. Also, how did this person know the dude was cheating? Did they stand outside the door and listen for moaning sounds? Has he met the wife?
Again, it was a thank you card. Not nude photos. Same thing could have happened if he frequented a flower shop, a restaurant, etc. And in some places adultery is considered a crime. No evidence this didn't happen in one of those places. If he wants to be sloppy and stupid in public, he runs the risk of consequences.
It's not illegal to tell someone their spouse is cheating. If you're doing something wrong and don't want to get caught, don't do it in the first place. It's his own fault. His wife could have randomly shown up, a friend could have seen and told, it's doesn't matter who told because he's the one doing what he isn't supposed to be doing.
And acting like your LYING is better only shows that you're immature because an actual adult would communicate with their partner if they were that unhappy. Anything that happens after that is their own fault when they decide to do the wrong thing.
Completely unrelated, but I kind of enjoy how on this website you can go to one post and get into a (potentially) heated debate with someone, and then go to another post, see that same person make a comment, and be like "omg me too, hi5!"
I think it's funny that funk keeps saying cheating isn't illegal even tho it's been pointed out in more than one comment that adultery (cheating) is illegal in quite a few places a lot of which have the full berth of low to very very high end hotels.
Holy crap you're right.
"In a small minority of states, a spouse may sue a third party for willfully and maliciously interfering with the marital relationship."
Can't say I'd necessarily fully agree with that law in 98% of situations, since, at the end of the day, it's the job of the two people IN the relationship to maintain it, and whether we it's necessarily moralistic or not, the third party owes them and their family nothing. But it does at least specify the third person had to have malicious intent..
I hope the guy finds out you did him in by acting unprofessionally, breaking hotel etiquette and his confidentiality, takes you to court and puts your self-righteous ass out of business.
They didn't do anything illegal or against the rules. They left a thank you note for a guest. That's all they did. It's not breaking any confidentiality because the letter of HIS hotel room is going to HIS address. They're not calling the dude out and blasting it on social media saying " this man is a cheater !!! "
If it's standard procedure to send thank you notes to regulars, it would hold up in court. If you willfully try to uncover the affair by sending a thank you note, and you normally don't send those, you're breaking confidentiality.
Probably heard something like that
I'd have done the same, simply bc I enjoy fucking things up and it'd be hella of a show to see the wife show up and catch them
I mean, maybe it's technically not their place, but I support the decision anyway. It's not the husband's place to put the wife at risk for stds, external pregnancies, and all the other fun things that can occur with affairs. Not to mention wasting both of their time. If the wife wants to stay with him after finding out, that's her business, but she has the right to an informed decision
Is the hoteleer responsible?
It's a hotel, not a brothel. It's not the hotel's job to cover his tracks for him, either. Not like the person installed cameras in the room and then mailed the pics to the wife.
Hotels are hotels. They are not your lawyer, therapist, or priest. You are not guaranteed confidentiality in any activity that occurs outside your room. Nothing was stopping the dumbass from switching hotels once in awhile, OR from having his mistress book a separate room.
And acting like your LYING is better only shows that you're immature because an actual adult would communicate with their partner if they were that unhappy. Anything that happens after that is their own fault when they decide to do the wrong thing.
"In a small minority of states, a spouse may sue a third party for willfully and maliciously interfering with the marital relationship."
Can't say I'd necessarily fully agree with that law in 98% of situations, since, at the end of the day, it's the job of the two people IN the relationship to maintain it, and whether we it's necessarily moralistic or not, the third party owes them and their family nothing. But it does at least specify the third person had to have malicious intent..