Relationship Advice?
by idkanymore · 13 comments 6 years ago
parisqeen · 6 years ago
Sure thing, what's up?
idkanymore · 6 years ago
My best friend went to homecoming with me, and every day since then, he's been super affectionate. A month ago, he told me he liked me, and I told him I did too. Since then, he's ignoring me and hanging out with my other best friend. She insists she doesn't like him, and he just ignores me. What do I do?
parisqeen · 6 years ago
Okay well that's weird considering he confessed to you first. I don't know all the details obviously but I'll do my best. Is it okay if I ask more questions? So I get a better understanding of what sort of person he is etc.
parisqeen · 6 years ago
It's okay if you don't want to answer that's totally fine
idkanymore · 6 years ago
Yeah, of course! What did you want to know?
parisqeen · 6 years ago
Just what sort of personality he has, maybe any external factors that could possibly be making him act like this, that sort of stuff. (also I'm about to leave so I'll reply later but I'm sure some other lovely people will be happy to help as well)
idkanymore · 6 years ago
He acts really tough outside, but he's actually a total sweetheart, and I don't know exactly what type of factors there are, but he's kinda shy, only has two friends who are girls (me, and my other best friend) and he kinda does this thing where he's super adorable for like two days, and then just ghosts me for two weeks... this has been happening a lot (and thank you so much anyway!)
unicycle · 6 years ago
You should probably just be up front with him. Like, "You said you liked me but now you're ignoring me. What's that about?" Maybe he doesn't like you anymore but isn't sure how to tell you, or maybe he does but doesn't know where to go from here. No matter what, you give him the space to let you know what's been going on.
parisqeen · 6 years ago
I agree with @unicycle, communication is honestly the best thing any in kind of relationship so I would try just being blunt and asking him what's wrong. Like Uni said, maybe he doesn't feel the same way anymore or maybe he doesn't really know how to show his feelings so he's ignoring you to avoid the problem. You should talk it out with him because ghosting you isn't the nicest thing to do and I wouldn't really appreciate that as a friend if I was in your position.
parisqeen · 6 years ago
in any kind*
dozier524 · 6 years ago
I agree with them both. As a guy with a lot of experience talking to friends and helping them through with their problems, your best bet is confrontation. Now there could be a couple reasons for it. There are lots of stories and things that I've heard, even from my dad that he might think the best way to get to you is to talk to you a little and ignore you, because that would make you more interested in him. But while you are interested as to why he isn't talking to you, it probably isn't working the same way. While this might not be the only reason that he's doing it, it could be a good one.
rosalinas · 6 years ago
Just tell him to his face
Something like ''dude, dafud you said you like me but disappeared for like 2 weeks. But whatever, if you don't like me anymore that's fine''
If he really doenst like you anymore, at least you know
If he still likes you, he'd freak out like he might lose you and do something about it
sir_spiderman · 6 years ago
It changed the dynamics of the relationship. Now that you each know you like each other it ruined the friendship aspect of it for the other and now they want another friend object.