lentil · 5 years ago
I guess they all have lives of their own, huh?
jay2327 · 5 years ago
What's worse is when somebody texts you first, you reply, and then they don't answer for hours. WHY TEXT ME IF YOU CAN'T TALK!
guest_ · 5 years ago
It’s annoying but best not to dwell on. The imagination can be a powerful enemy when turned in on itself. Maybe you text first because they are more timid in that sense, maybe they lead more uneventful lives or aren’t as interesting and don’t text because they don’t have a good conversation to lead, maybe it’s because like me and my partner- they generally know when I get home, but I have no idea when they will or won’t be busy, so it’s just better for everyone if they text me and I reply unless it’s urgent or a simple and non time sensitive check in. Or maybe a million things, but dwelling on it is bound to lead to self doubt or anger- chiefly because you’re already prone to that or else you wouldn’t begin to dwell on that to begin. So my .02 is to not fret. Just live life. If it is a serious issue you could always talk to them about it too and just say that you’ve noticed that you usually have to be the one to start a co creation and it would be nice to have some variety.
lentil · 5 years ago
Thank you
I appreciate your well thought out response
bethorien · 5 years ago
I tend to have paranoid delusions not too infrequently ( a symptom of, you guessed it, paranoia tho also mixed with a low self esteem and often time a few other things.)
I usually have to text first. If I was to let myself dwell on anything really (not the easiest thing to prevent) it could be rather problematic. It only took getting a text that was worded weird and 10 minutes of idle brain to have me 100% convinced that my oldest friend was homophobic and was out to hurt me. I sometimes have issues with thinking that some or all of my friends don't care about me because of the whole texting first thing if I don't keep my brain from sitting and thinking about such things. It's all completely baseless.
Your friends love you. They care about you. Just because they don't text first doesn't mean that isn't true.