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deleted · 5 years ago
Have you talked about dating in general? Do you know if he's interested in the dating scene right now or if he wants to be single?
deleted · 5 years ago
maybe "hey.. i have a problem with my computer.. could you help me with that..?" (if he knows a little bit about that stuff & you don't so much). or similiar things. positive aspects: he's at your home without you asking him on a date.. and you can then share time together (even after he solved the "problem" you could invite him to stay a little longer or to go somewhere else like for a snack or something). after that you could say to him the next time you see him that it was fun and that you two should meet again to do something. maybe you have some hobbys / interest which would be a option.. like if you two like a specific band you could go on a concert or something like that^.. it's like a "trojan-horse-style date" :D
deleted · 5 years ago
i think if he likes you, he will say yes & well.. then you know it :)
kraftykat320 · 5 years ago
One day when he does this, ask him why or if he likes u
dash224 · 5 years ago
Update: so we actually met up outside of class and worked on a project together and once we finished we talked for hours after that and we both kind of lost track of time. But then the next day after class he didn’t walk me home. So I’m assuming he’s not interested anymore.
thatguyyouknow · 5 years ago
Just becasue he walked you home once doesn't mean he's interested in you
creativedragonbaby · 5 years ago
Maybe he just really values your safety. He might not be interested in you, but he probably cares a lot.
guest_ · 5 years ago
Or maybe he has something going on in his life right now or that particular day he couldn’t. Don’t sweat the short game so much, but also don’t get lost in dreams about the future. Deep breaths, I know it’s hard when you like someone, that your mind is drawn to think about them and it’s easy to try and read every little thing as a sign. But take a step back, relax, and give it a little time. After a couple days you can always “accidentally” cross paths and you can say something like “hey stranger. I didn’t see you/(much stronger) missed you on the walk home, is everything alright?” You’re still safe because “missed you” implies caring but can easily mean that you missed a friend or missed the company. You’ve asked how they’ve been (shown concern) which is also a subtle way of prying to find out if they have been legitimately tied up or if it’s something else, without tipping your hand or seeming clingy.
guest_ · 5 years ago
If things don’t go well and they aren’t going to be able to or don’t want to walk anymore you can bail out with a lighthearted “well, I’ll miss the company but good luck with.../you need to focus on your..../I hope things get better for you/etc. as appropriate for whatever they say. It is a soft close that leaves the door open but doesn’t put anything out there. No matter what I wish you the best of luck. Just relax and don’t sweat it. It may be nothing or it may be something. Best bet is to try and find out, but if it’s not going to work out you’ll be ok.
dash224 · 5 years ago
Thanks! @guest_
Your advice is always so helpful!
dash224 · 5 years ago
@thatguyyouknow idk if you just can’t read all that well or if you just skim over things and only want to read the parts you’re interested in, but he didn’t walk me home once. It’s been weeks. I know you get off on putting me down, but for once can you just fuck off?
thatguyyouknow · 5 years ago
I ain't gonna fuck off
dash224 · 5 years ago
Lol that’s all you have to say? You really must only read what you want to read.
funkmasterrex · 5 years ago
I'm just gonna say... NEVER ask a guy why he likes you, especially out of the blue. Basically the answer is: we just do. It's usually a headache trying to explain it.
funkmasterrex · 5 years ago
Also... I used to walk a female friend home for a year (had the same bus stop, lived 2 houses down)... it took until the summer after before my idiotic ass realized she was interested. I wish I had gotten that time back and we could have had something special for longer. Honestly if I knew sooner it could have impacted my college selections and then who knows what course I'd be on now. I'm not going to start contemplating that though.
dash224 · 5 years ago
Oh I’m sorry. Do you have any of her contact information?
funkmasterrex · 5 years ago
Well... yeah. She's married now though; this was over a decade ago.
deleted · 5 years ago
@dash224 you are over thinking this and @funkmasterrex you ain't helping her
deleted · 5 years ago
@dash224 that's the last thing I will write in this thread, act . If you are interested in him just ask him yourself, if not leave it the way it is. Too many dead squirrels on crossroads because they couldn't decide
dash224 · 5 years ago
Okay you’re right. Thanks!