Being single sucks
by lentil · 17 comments 5 years ago
lentil · 5 years ago
Yeah I get it. Being single "has its perks" like you're free-er or whatever. The truth is I'm lonely as heck and I want a boyfriend, but those are a little hard to get.
Let's talk about the pros and cons of being single pringles
parisqeen · 5 years ago
Cons:
If you're not being single by choice then you're lonely a lot.
If you're single by choice Idk I can't think of many cons tbh, except you get to learn more about yourself and enjoy your own company.
If you want a partner I suggest trying to get out there and just go meet people, not an easy thing in practice I know. There's options like online dating now, enter events or community things so you can meet new like-minded people. Ask your friends to introduce you to their single friends, although it might be a little scary it will increase your chances of meeting a potential partner a lot more. What have you tried so far?
lentil · 5 years ago
Just talking to people, really. Usually at first I'm really interested, but as I learn more about them I lose interest, and slowly stop talking to them. Every time my friends try to hook me up it ends up not great, and I just don't know how to talk to strangers in that way, online or face to face.
jay2327 · 5 years ago
I'm single and almost turning 20. Never been with anyone before. I find some days it can get lonely because I don't have friends. I only have two friends online whom I have never met. I choose to believe that everything happens when it's meant to happen. I totally understand the desire for wanting a partner, I want one too. When the time comes, it will happen. I try to find the positives in being single. Nobody is dependant on you, you can flirt all you want etc etc. My tip for talking to people is to start with "Hello" A greeting can take you many places! :)
jay2327 · 5 years ago
You'll find somebody when the time is right. Some say that not looking often brings more lookers. A watched pot never boils.
acegalaxi · 5 years ago
May I ask your age? As that will give me insight into my reply.
deleted · 5 years ago
I would much rather be lonely and alone than to be forced to not have my personal space. I personally use “lonely” lightly.
spiderwoman · 5 years ago
Meh. I'm extremely lonely, but it's whatever. I have too many of my own issues to get a partner nor am I in a position to even have one. Plus, I'm a very scary person according to a past friend. I'm at that depressed state of knowing you're bad and still wanting it to get worse so that you can finally end it. I'm not even capable of living with myself, so why would anyone else want to?
sublimegamer · 5 years ago
Spidey sounding suicidal, this isn't good.
sublimegamer · 5 years ago
A good partner (or friend) would be there by your side despite your flaws, and help you improve.
sublimegamer · 5 years ago
In return you will need to do the same. The more you give and trust, the more others will reciprocate!
panicatthedisco · 5 years ago
I know it sounds cliche but I agree with the the point of- when the times right, something will happen. The road may be lonely and you may feel weird or uncomfortable for not dating but everyone is different. I didn't start dating until I was 18 and even then, it was super casual. I was like you. I lost interest and moved on quickly. But hang in there. Move out of your comfort zone, talk to people, get tinder. Just be yourself and something will happen.
Hell, I met my fiancé on tinder and I didn't even like him all that much to begin with lmao.
deleted · 5 years ago
Be careful spider. I, too, had a friend say things about me. Don’t put too much stock about it. The fact that you care about this is enough to render the past irrelevant.
lentil · 5 years ago
I'm 17, I think I'm a little too young for dating sites lol
I know the right guy will come along, but it's been 17 years so...
acegalaxi · 5 years ago
Hi lentil, you'll hear this from so many people in time, but you're so young for this to mar your life. Grow and develop into who are. The right person is probably doing the same thing right now too, that's why you haven't met yet. It's like fruit, we all know the end product is delicious and healthy, but pick and eat it too early and it's either bitter or too hard to enjoy.
parisqeen · 5 years ago
I totally agree with @acegalaxi. I didn't even consider dating until I was 19 and even now I'm not really interested in it. You'll hate hearing this but 17 is young so you don't really have to worry about running out of time. Some people (most even) don't properly start relationships until their mid 20's. If you feel you want a partner then go out their and interact with people, if you're still in school then go and talk to your school mates and meet people in other year levels and other schools. This might not apply to you but don't feel pressured to date just because your friends are, you still have to learn about yourself so sometimes sharing that important part of your life with someone else who is also learning about themselves can be tricky. You'll know when the time is right I think.
spiderwoman · 5 years ago
The issue is that he/she does want to have a relationship it seems. Some people may be fine not dating until they're in the mid twenties, but this person doesn't seem to be one of those people.