I like how you live in a world were shitty people like that dont exist and I don't mean that in a sarcastic way or anything. But yeah man assholes like that do happen to exist.
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Uh.. I don't know which part you were referring to but one of my friends was raped at age 15 so I mean I know rapists exist obviously but I mean nobody says get over it... I have never heard anybody say something remotely as shitty to somebody who was raped.
Nobody says get over it to a rape victim. Whoever posted that just wanted to feel victimized even though it hasn't even happened to him/her because is they had they'd clearly let the whole world know.
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People do say that when the girl was already considered a slut, if he/she was a prostitute, if your rapist was your boyfriend or husband, and especially if the rapist was the same gender as you. One of my best friends works at a sexual assault clinic and sees it everyday
And let the whole world know? A victim of sexual assault often feels isolated, like a worthless piece of shit, and if someone says this to them it just furthers that idea. They feel ashamed
I know this because my first long term bf would inappropriately touch me at night and masturbate with my hands like I was a puppet, when he thought I was sleeping, when I couldn't give consent. And people said it wasn't really sexual assault and that I was overreacting
I hate to break it to you who believe survivors don't get told to "get over it", but trust me we do. And not just those who were considered "sluts" before hand. Ihave been told by "friends", and even "family" to get over it or forget about it, or basically bury it. My favorite is the "stop being childish".
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Why would I have told the police after being put down and told it want a big deal over and over again? I was lead to believe that I was wrong and not just by my peers. Adults said these things too. It was only years later, with a good support system, that I realized he was the one in the wrong
People told me to "just get over it" and "leave it in the past" or my favourite... "we know you're a slut don't be stupid over it" - you can't leave shit like that in the past.
I have never ever heard that kind of response towards rape victims. Never.
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Just because you haven't heard it doesn't mean others haven't. It happens all the time
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In some countries, in some religions the victims are actually blamed and get told that they should be greatful because someone wanted to sleep with them, and sometimes they even burn the victim because it's so shameful having been raped that death is better.
It's sick really and I still remember this one quote from a guy it went
'A girl is like a diamond, if you see one on the street you pick it up'
Guest, I'm so glad people were supportive of you when you were raped. I was actually told "oh well" by my brother when his friends gang raped me. I was 10.
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Oh my god that's horrible why the fuck would they do that!!? Even though I'm a 16 year old girl who isn't all that big i really want to beat them up right now
In a lot of cases it because they don't want to think about it so they don't want you to think about it, at least in the case of family and friends. It's not that they are cruel, they are clueless. As for other times, people can be assholes, but they can also be truly good and kind.
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freddieshood - they were drunk, popular, football players. They couldn't even believe I didn't want to because they were "all that". Luckily they didn't get a away with it because one member came in and stopped them and made them pay. He's now a district attorney in Texas. Definitely my hero.
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You were 10!! Like it's not acceptable no matter what age but oh my god.
I really love that attorney.
Tumblr at it again. This person obviously just wants to be a victim. When someone is bitten by a dog most people would say they are just paranoid (because they are) but if they are raped no one would dare tell them that. This is bullshit and exactly why I hate tumblr
Wrong, refer to previous comment. Also I know it's not nearly isolated because I have worked with alot of other survivors who deal with the same crap. I really wish we lived in a world where everyone was as considerate as you assume, but we don't. And I live in America, I can only imagine the hell wonen of other countries go through.
So giving a shit about your fellow human beings is now grounds for being classified as feminist? Fuck you. FYI, a lot of men are raped too, and even more of them are told the same thing about getting of it.
the guest is right, you know. We used to be able to log in and all laugh together about dumb stuff and not have to worry about people being offended because of our jokes. Now we have to be careful to not offend some gender confused feminist who forgot how to take a joke.
Quiet a while ago now there was a post captioned "meeting of woman drivers" with a photo of crashed cars, girls complained it was sexism desgised as a joke and the post was removed. A few minutes prier a post with a comedian saying "men aren't dogs, dogs are loyal" was posted but it was a comedian saying the joke so no one could complain.
Thatoneguy, if you look at the comments it wasn't a feminist who got all butthurt (for a change, I like them no more than I like masoynists), it was people who claimed the post was someone trying to play victim. That isn't cool or funny. Rape survivors hear that shit way too often. Personally I thought the post was funny. What I don't find funny is someone who obviously has no personal experience belittling those who do. Simple as that.
BABAHAHA you're all the biggest wankers i've seen in a long time "aww its just a joke get over it" are you freaking kidding me? Ok how about I just spout some racist ass shit, or how about I make rape jokes about your mother or sister? That is the lamest cop out. You guys are like broken records of misogyny.."oooh feminists are feministy and baaaad".... "my internet brain wank has been hurt because someone is calling me on my shit values". Honestly im glad your on the internet so I can laugh at your sad asses. Please keep on being the morons you truly are..
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^ And here we have the best guest ever! You should make an account
And let the whole world know? A victim of sexual assault often feels isolated, like a worthless piece of shit, and if someone says this to them it just furthers that idea. They feel ashamed
I know this because my first long term bf would inappropriately touch me at night and masturbate with my hands like I was a puppet, when he thought I was sleeping, when I couldn't give consent. And people said it wasn't really sexual assault and that I was overreacting
Please read this article if you are saying that no one would dare blame the rape victim in the unrealistically perfect world you seem to believe you live in.
It's sick really and I still remember this one quote from a guy it went
'A girl is like a diamond, if you see one on the street you pick it up'
I really love that attorney.