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I am not good with the words but I can listen and offer the supports and be nice and if you cry you can cry on my shoulder that's fine I am here for you because you are part of my internet family. (Same goes for any other FSer that might be struggling.)
Well my offer stands should you ever need me. I hope your friend responds to you soon and in the meantime you have friskyfox hugs to tide you over! <(^_^)>
Well if you hear someone saying 'im not having a good something'
At least try to ask if they are okay
Show that you're concerned
We are crazy, we know that
if that's all they say, sure but if they tell you not to talk to them at that moment, what are you supposed to do, force them to talk to you? make their whatever progress from 'not good' to 'worse'?
i know that women, in general, tend to say stuff they want to hear negated, like the ol' 'oh i'm fat' line but when someone's not feeling well it's not time for pulling shit like that. if you're not feeling like talking, say so. if you want to talk about your problems, simply /say so/.
complicated, right?
Should have went with, "I'm so sorry to hear that. Let me know if you need anything."
That goes for boyfriends and just friends.
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· 7 years ago
Nahan. If I say text me tomorrow, then I really mean tomorrow. I like to give my men a heads up so if I'm it all that talkative they k ow they didn't do anything to wrong
I at first thought the boyfriend was the one texting "I'm not having a good day", the rest of this post confused the shite outta me until I just now figured it out
This is one of the things I appreciate most about my wife, she doesn't do this nonsense, she says what she means in a straightforward way, and when she needs to freak out and be irrational for a bit (who doesn't need that occasionally?) she warns me first. It actually scared me the first time she did that because she was telling me in a rational way that she was about to be irrational and it sort of broke my brain.
*sigh* tumblrettes being tumblrettes again.
Look, it would be more tactful to say "Okay, let me know if you need anything.", but leaving someone alone because they ask for it is totally fine. I don't understand this whole "I don't want to talk about it which actually means I want you to pry" bullshit. I'd never do it to my boyfriend, and even if I was in such an irrational mood that I would do it, I would never break up with him over it! What kind of backwards logic is that, breaking up with someone for doing what you told them to do?
But hey that's good because it stops these dumbass tumblrettes from breeding.
As a girl, I hate it when my friends dod this to their boyfriends, then get mad. It's cruel and childish, and boys don't read into it the way girls do, they take it literally and leave it at that.
That's how the majority of girls are, and they don't grow out of it. Example:
My wife didn't really want me to go out with my friends instead of spending the evening with her, what she said was, "That's just fine. You go out with your friends." And then, she gets angry at me when I *don't* presume that she's not telling the truth and do what she said.
I am not good with the words but I can listen and offer the supports and be nice and if you cry you can cry on my shoulder that's fine I am here for you because you are part of my internet family. (Same goes for any other FSer that might be struggling.)
At least try to ask if they are okay
Show that you're concerned
We are crazy, we know that
i know that women, in general, tend to say stuff they want to hear negated, like the ol' 'oh i'm fat' line but when someone's not feeling well it's not time for pulling shit like that. if you're not feeling like talking, say so. if you want to talk about your problems, simply /say so/.
complicated, right?
That goes for boyfriends and just friends.
Look, it would be more tactful to say "Okay, let me know if you need anything.", but leaving someone alone because they ask for it is totally fine. I don't understand this whole "I don't want to talk about it which actually means I want you to pry" bullshit. I'd never do it to my boyfriend, and even if I was in such an irrational mood that I would do it, I would never break up with him over it! What kind of backwards logic is that, breaking up with someone for doing what you told them to do?
But hey that's good because it stops these dumbass tumblrettes from breeding.
My wife didn't really want me to go out with my friends instead of spending the evening with her, what she said was, "That's just fine. You go out with your friends." And then, she gets angry at me when I *don't* presume that she's not telling the truth and do what she said.