I might be able to understand what he/she is getting at, but I don't think that's a good metaphor to portray it.
Who would want to date an idiot who thinks he can cool a cup of water down by fanning it? He may be super devoted and all, and probably make a really great friend. But really?
I can't find myself completely agreeing with this. After all, its incorrect to say effort can't equate to love because that only applies when the person you're interested in isn't actively interested in you. However, if that person IS interested in you, then your effort would be appreciated, and you would become more desirable in their eyes for trying so hard for them
You'd think that right? Sounds good and all, but it really just doesn't work out like that. It really just comes down to who has the desirable trait(s) and how much.
Nine hundred and ninty-nine times out of a thousand or more, that's how it's going to shake out. Evolution will play it's hand and win. With such regularity that the other possibility will be so fleetingly rare that it could simply be though of as a fairy tale, a comforting fiction in the face of failure.
I don't think that it comes right down to just evolution. Though yes, we are animals and will choose the best mate whenever possible, it's definitely not purely like the metaphor states. Perhaps someone else does have more desirable traits, but there is nothing stopping you from obtaining them as well. Effort is a key but not the only one, you can be a fool and fan the cup forever, or use your intellect and go and find ice like the other man did, use your efforts wisely. And though many would say " well intelligence is one of those desirable traits" well it's really not, you live and you learn, you didn't have ice this time around, but next time you will. No one starts out with these desirable traits, they must be learned through effort.
True, I agree. I think that the true mark of "being human," is to be able to master our evolutionary predispositions and rise above them.
The seems to me though, what I was alluding to above, that few recognise this and even fewer succeed.
Myself being a good example. I recognized the matter and thought that I was in control. Right up until very recently, when a matter arose in which I feel that I have failed miserably.
Who would want to date an idiot who thinks he can cool a cup of water down by fanning it? He may be super devoted and all, and probably make a really great friend. But really?
Nine hundred and ninty-nine times out of a thousand or more, that's how it's going to shake out. Evolution will play it's hand and win. With such regularity that the other possibility will be so fleetingly rare that it could simply be though of as a fairy tale, a comforting fiction in the face of failure.
The seems to me though, what I was alluding to above, that few recognise this and even fewer succeed.
Myself being a good example. I recognized the matter and thought that I was in control. Right up until very recently, when a matter arose in which I feel that I have failed miserably.