It's not fun, they're people and should be allowed to but when they do it to you it's horrible.
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· 6 years ago
Meh. In my mind twenties both my parents (individually, six month apart) apologized to me for not giving a Shit about me growing up. It was kind of cool, now we're just human beings to each other: and we all understand where the distance comes from. This came four years after my older brother died from heroin; so I know it was honest and not just a reaction. Viewing your parents as anything other than people is a mistake.
I'm glad they were honest that's good and I completely agree, they're not just parents they are people and I'm sorry for your loss. I just don't like it when they come to me with their insecurities and worries about whether they're a good parent, it's saddening
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· 6 years ago
It's a bummer for sure: but that is when you look them in the eye and say "you did your best and I love you for it". I love my parents for their talking about insecurities; I never would have known my mom loved speed, or my dad had thoughts about running off like his dad did. It's like having friends: you can't hold the truth against them, and you wouldn't be friends if they hid it from you.
That's exactly what I did, I said "you did and are doing an amazing job, I wouldn't want you any other way and I know you love me". I wouldn't say my parents are my friends, friends have different roles to me but I do want them to trust me. Every family is different
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· 6 years ago
Good call. I guess all the things I talk to my parents about don't make us close, it's just kind of clinical discussion. We also have only spent about an hour a week together in the last five years; while I discuss my real Shit with my friends (who are the only people who have seen me really express emotion in the last decade). Sorry to preach at you.
Also even if you don't wanna open up
Do remenber we, fsers, care about you and your well-being