It's also true you don't need marriage to be monogamous and have a family. You can be faithful to one person and have kids with them and be perfectly content without needing a ceremony or an expensive ring or a piece of paper. If those are what you want, good on you and go for it. If not, that's perfectly okay. Just do what makes you happy and don't worry about what everyone else says will make you happy.
To each their own. I have a wonderful husband, but I have no desire at all to have kids.
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"If you don't live in a city" But then you're so disconnected from everything and everyone. Also, just because you're married doesn't mean you should have a single income. The wife can (and should imo) still work.
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It's called suburbs. He's not saying you have to live in the boondocks, just that big cities tend to charge high rent.
Wholesome truth from 4chan? Unbelievable! I honestly expected it to go dark at any moment while reading it. That said, this Anon is right, marriage is sacred and wonderful when done properly (even while the very idea is under assault in the mainstream), and children are ever so fulfilling. To me the greatest sound in the world is my son laughing.
Where we find purpose is different for us all. If having kids gives you purpose, I'm happy for you. Others purpose may be to walk on Mars. Not all marriages end badly and not all families end happily. A family is a commitment. It isn't something to validate you, they are human beings who you will be responsible for. If you change your mind and discover you'd rather be doing something else it isn't just hard on you to walk away, it will be hard on them too. Casual dating and experimentation in life are how you find what makes you happy. If what will make you happy is a "traditional suburban dream" go for it, if it isn't for you then you aren't missing out, just saving yourself and others grief. There are momenths where we all long for some aspect of family or married life. Cute babies or fun times. A family isn't a moment though, it's every day every moment, good and bad, fun and not, until whenever it ends. Don't commit to life for desire of a moment. Find your happiness wherever it is
This post is stupid and borderline offensive, and I say this as someone who was recently married and plans on having kids. Not everybody wants to get married, not everyone wants children. Not everyone finds both fulfilling. And that's fine. Also I don't know what kind of 1950's fantasy world the author lives in, but no, you can't raise multiple kids on one income, unless that one income is super high. Sorry. Kids are crazy expensive. It doesn't matter if you're in the city or not. There are just as many people living in poverty in the country. Most of them can't find a good job because it is actually much harder to find jobs out there. Also the media isn't there to model a perfect life for you, and if you're expecting that or need that, you're not very bright.
I read the whole thing waiting for the punchline. Family is fine when it works, I guess. I moved to another country to escape mine. I'm not starting one either, I'm glad my girlfriend (7 years together) agrees. We've got pet rabbits, that's plenty.
Exactly, guest. And what the fuck? People ask if I sleep around in a way implying that doing so is bad, I say I do not, and still, downvotes.
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· 6 years ago
Sometimes I'll say [insert any comment here], and get downvotes.
Later on practically the same post, and in the same context, I'll say [same comment] and get upvotes.
*shrug*
I can't believe so many of the comments on this post are so favorable. Since when are we ok with saying that marriage and kids is the only acceptable way to live? This sounds like a version of the speech my grandmother gave me when I told her I was going to college.
Lehughes, I think the point of the post was to encourage people to find meaning in relationships within a family unit, rather in less permanent things like money, sex, and power. While not everyone has a good family situation, it's important to have people in your life who act as family members would:by being a support system and a place of safety. OP is saying that having a family can fulfill some of your deepest needs for love and stability. Sorry for the long comment.
yeah but people don't agree with this cause who needs marriage when you can go around doing one night stands with people you don't even know the name of
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Marriages aren't just a way to get guaranteed sex every now and then
in a few years the term "relationship" will not mean what it means now. In the past family and marriage was sacred to both man and woman. Now since feminism took control and MGTOW are becoming more and more popular, there will be no reason to stay or form a relationship. Kids will be negotiated like business deals. Love will be treated like it's a fucking sickness, because it is. Wanna talk about loneliness and fulfillment? Try raising a kid these days with a wife that doesn't love you. After you divorce her and get really old, you think you're kid is gonna take care of you? Think smart, Current movements tend to make future trends. We all want somebody, but we all get the same shit. So you think you know better, well, get back to me and prove me that i'm wrong like saying "oh yeah, I'm gonna be different, Hyper gamy doesn't really exist, or she will love me for who I am, or she will never cheat on me if I do this for her" Do yourself a favor and educate yourself about female mindset.
I think what you discuss is called a human not a woman. We are all fickle and impulsive at times. Flawed and confusing. Nothing on earth lasts forever. You go to the theme park and then leave, you have a good day then sleep, you have a great dream then wake up. You build a castle of stone and time erodes it away. That's life on earth. We enjoy what we can while we can. Sure in life is that you will be hurt, and none of us are likely getting out of this universe alive. Just as there are still arranged marriages and old time traditionalists there will always be those who keep the values of this time, but change is inevitable. We take what we like with what we don't. As more people have more freedoms and rights that means some must give up privilege. So long as both are able to consent of sound mind, the relationships others choose is not my concern. If you know what you want then find it, watching and ruminating on what other people do won't get you closer to happiness.
to get into an art school
and then sometime get married
Weird.
Later on practically the same post, and in the same context, I'll say [same comment] and get upvotes.
*shrug*