That was sort of my point. The original comment by @kipois was: “guys make fun of each other without...” but they are not “guys.” They are a “guy” and a “gal.” How “guys” communicate isn’t irrelevant- as one is a guy; but it isn’t the only relevant piece. You see- some signs of maturity are understanding and compromise. For instance Recognizing that people communicate differently, and while not perhaps completely adopting their method of communication, altering our own to show some consideration, as they should as well. More over, while asking if “y’all are retarded or something” isn’t itself very mature- a rebuttal that boils down to a playground insult fight and relies on the proposition of the opponent being ugly, is not very mature either. If someone accuses you of having a bad temper, even if they do so with ill temper themselves, the way to prove them wrong isn’t to yell louder than them, but to show composure. In short: it’s called not lowering yourself to their level.
Lol. That’s one interpretation. But I wouldn’t agree. It can be, if you let it. When I was younger I likely would have agreed completely. Having gained many years and maybe some maturity, I can say that sometimes being mature sucks. But overall it’s not so bad. I still have fun, and I have way less personal and financial dramas, less “stupid avoidable problems.” Maturity also opens doors to things you wanted but couldn’t because no one would have the trust in you to grant you those things before. You can be mature and still tell inappropriate jokes or do dumb stuff and have fun. It’s more about knowing when and where it’s approproate to be inappropriate, and being responsible in being irresponsible. Overall to me, maturity isn’t the death of fun or childish glee, or purging yourself of “immature things.” It’s about being conscious of choices and actions, considerate of others and aware. It’s about developing empathy and recognizing others as people just like you but with differences.
it's a trap