Sorry for not being wholesome but tbh I feel like throwing myself off a building so...

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parisqeen · 5 years ago · FIRST

Aw bud, what's wrong?

sunflowers · 5 years ago

A lot really. Thank you for asking. This website used to be somewhere I could come to find relief from everything else but now it's a cause of stress for me. Everyone knows me as the "wholesome" user, and I like that—don't get me wrong—but it's hard to act so wholesome when I don't even feel like being alive. Even the star thing stresses me out. When I lose my star after not being active on the site for a couple days, I feel like a failure. I know this is probably not normal, I'm just sensitive like that. I wish I could just look at memes and move on with my life when I see something I disagree with like other people, but that's not who I am. I'm the person who stands up for what's right and for what I believe in. I'm tired of taking things lying down. If I can't say no to people irl, at least I can say it here. But I'm getting so tired of fighting. I just want to relax, but I can't! I don't know what's wrong with me. @firmlee_grasspit I think you're right. This site is obviously

sunflowers · 5 years ago

not doing me any good right now. Haha. I bet you guys probably feel like you're watching a celebrity meltdown right now (not that I'm a celebrity or anything). I think I need to take a break. I seriously feel like I'm on the verge of some sort of breakdown; there's so much going on in my life and this has really been the cherry on top. Alright. I think the time has come.
If I come back, please be gentle with me. Have compassion, always. Please be kind to one another.
If I don't come back, don't forget me! I'll be with you all in your hearts. Let the memory of sunflowers live in within you and continue my legacy through words and actions of kindness, love, and empathy. Thank you all. Much love,
sunflowers :) :D <3

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deleted · 5 years ago

I must apologize for being a part of your stress. I was a cause/catalyst for many recent arguments. I am quite passionate, but try to remain reasonable. As I said, many of us did our part to reconcile. Hopefully, this lightens the load a tad, as I understand how important this site is to most of us. Hell, I practically live here now. Just remember that you are not alone, and most of us would lend a hand in a heartbeat. If you do decide to take a break, please take care of yourself.

xvarnah · 5 years ago

Aw, Hon, no one thinks you're having a meltdown. There's a lot of users who have felt overwhelmed or letdown by the website, or needed to take breaks for other reasons. I'm sorry you're seeing so much of the negative on this site-- I promise it's not all like that, but I can definitely see how all the infighting or botposts can wear.
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I hope you're alright. It doesn't sound like you are, but I know you've had low periods before and you always seem to find some strength to work through them. I hope this time won't be different and if there's anything we can do please just say the word
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I hadn't seen you posting as much lately but I just thought you were busy, I didn't think this was weighing on you so heavily. If nothing else funsub should be a place to get away from stress not add to it

xvarnah · 5 years ago

I think if you feel this overwhelmed then a break may be a good idea-- your health and well-being come first 100%, but know we're here for you still. And I hope you will come back-- this place won't be the same without you

parisqeen · 5 years ago

Sunflowers, my darling, what you're saying is very very normal. I know you might not like the "logical" side sometimes but just in case I'll tell you how the brain perceives things when it's in a negative state. When we are upset, stressed or negative our brain likes to look for things that are constant or support our current thought process (cause it believes there's a threat so it's trying to find it). So even if it doesn't feel like it for me, maybe for you this site feels argumentative or stressful because you are currently in a stressful state. The way to fix it is to do exactly what you said, take a break, the more you allow that association between this site and stress to continue the more you will feel stress when you are on this site. You are a lovely user and I treasure your presence here a lot so please do what's best for your health, go relax, go take some time for yourself and we'll all be here for you when you're feeling better.

parisqeen · 5 years ago

There is no pressure to be "wholesome", you are a human being so you are made up of more than one trait or one aspect. You're allowed to be more than wholesome. The star is not important, your content and comments are valued by us all even without a star, no one cares about the star and if they do they need to be careful how they view what's important and what it represents. This community loves you so come back when you're ready.

guest · 5 years ago

Grow sum ballz

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guest · 5 years ago

TBH I don't find anyone here wholesome except DDOC and that was many moons ago

mrsuperman8942 · 5 years ago

well i try my best to be wholesome and polite.

parisqeen · 5 years ago

I miss DDOC

deleted · 5 years ago

It looks as though things are settling down. A lot of agreements/amends have been made. Please breathe, or take a break from the site.

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deleted · 5 years ago

I tried to tap "like" and I accidentally clicked an ad...

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purplepumpkin · 5 years ago

We like you with or without star. They don't mean anything, and certainly don't determine your self worth. I suck at comforting people but I'd really want you to get better. It's not easy to be hypersensitive in society but that doesn't mean something is wrong with you, as you said you're just more passionate and "whole", you're investing yourself 100% in what you do, and that's a quality (even though it hurts). At times life can be really stressful and we start to take everything more harshly, once again it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. When someone repeatedly hits your knees, you're not expected to run a marathon, and stress/hypersensitivity/etc are just like that for your mind.
Maybe you could increase your magnesium intake, it could help. Can I also offer a protection spell? (it's probably weird but that's all I can do)

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deleted · 5 years ago

I would just stay away from comment sections.
I kept getting into arguments with trolls and contrarians in comment sections of Marvel related things leading up to Captain Marvel and my mood improved drastically when I just stopped reading the comments.

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jasonmon · 5 years ago

I understand how frustrating things can be. I hope you come back! You always seem to post funny or wholesome stuff for everyone, and your comments are great. Once, someone was mean to you or something and your comment was the best thing I've ever read here. You just said: "mmm, harder daddy"
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Idk if I've ever laughed harder at anything I've seen on funsub. It was so good that I remember it during arguments in real life. There's no coming back from that comment. You'll just win the argument. So thank you so much for that gem. That, along with your generally sunny disposition towards everyone, definitely makes me like you a lot and root for you to have a good life. It even made me like the state of Ohio a bit, which I never thought would happen. No offense :D
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Stay strong, kid! <3

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malwhitaker · 5 years ago

Yas

jimbobbillyjohnson · 5 years ago

Hey, you guys wanna fight?

deleted · 5 years ago

No, Ryan Stiles; for the last time, we don’t want to fight. Now go wait for Drew Carey to call you for the next bit.

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guest · 5 years ago

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deleted · 5 years ago

oH mY lOrD hOw EDGY oF yOu

mrsuperman8942 · 5 years ago

actually, it's not actually edgy unless they have their own name signed to it. since it's a guest, it's just a silly little smudge on my screen.

deleted · 5 years ago

Gave me a chuckle

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