My family went on a giant, 15,000km road trip across the USA when I was little. My parents got a pack of these for my sisters and I. They said to just eat them and NOT to pretend, under any circumstances, that we were smoking them.
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0.00004 seconds later, my mom looked back to see all of us pretending to smoke them. Boy, were we in trouble... She took them away and smashed them to bits and yelled for like half a state.
Wow. The whole point was to pretend to smoke them. I get not wanting to encourage that kind of behavior in children, but also if it's that big of a concern don't buy them this candy.
Also, there is a difference between a consequence and just being mean. Taking the candy away seems completely reasonable. A stren talking to about inappropriate behavior seems reasonable. A bit of a raised voice is probably inevitable because you are on a road trip with children who are misbehaving. Yelling for half a state is excessive. Smashing the candy is frankly inappropriate. You just successfully taught your children that destructive outbursts are a reasonable response to someone disobeying orders.
For those of you who aren't in the US, half a state worth of driving is about two hours. Even if this is an exaggeration, I assume @jasonmon 's mother yelled for at least 20min, and I would guess closer to an hour.
Breaking things just isn't a good response to nearly any circumstance
Throughout my childhood, my mom averaged 3-4 hours a day of lecturing that would consist mainly of yelling. In high school, I got a full-time job so that I wouldn't be home much (school: 7-3, work: 3-12, bed by 2am) and she'd wake me up at 5am to get an hour to yell at me, so that backfired.
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She had mental health issues when I was growing up. That was a long time ago and I'm definitely over it, but a two hour lecture was a shorter span. She actually did give us the smashed candies after she calmed down, so that was nice! :)
I'm sorry that was your experience. I really hope your mother was able to get help for her mental health issues.
I'm glad the candies were still nice. :)
For some reason these weren't available where I come from until 2012... So here I was, 15, excitedly buying my first pack of chocolate cigarettes. And man did I enjoy them!
I still get some from times to times.
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0.00004 seconds later, my mom looked back to see all of us pretending to smoke them. Boy, were we in trouble... She took them away and smashed them to bits and yelled for like half a state.
>tells you, a youngin, to not to pretend to smoke them
What the hell did she think was going to happen
Also, there is a difference between a consequence and just being mean. Taking the candy away seems completely reasonable. A stren talking to about inappropriate behavior seems reasonable. A bit of a raised voice is probably inevitable because you are on a road trip with children who are misbehaving. Yelling for half a state is excessive. Smashing the candy is frankly inappropriate. You just successfully taught your children that destructive outbursts are a reasonable response to someone disobeying orders.
For those of you who aren't in the US, half a state worth of driving is about two hours. Even if this is an exaggeration, I assume @jasonmon 's mother yelled for at least 20min, and I would guess closer to an hour.
Breaking things just isn't a good response to nearly any circumstance
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She had mental health issues when I was growing up. That was a long time ago and I'm definitely over it, but a two hour lecture was a shorter span. She actually did give us the smashed candies after she calmed down, so that was nice! :)
I'm glad the candies were still nice. :)
I still get some from times to times.