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· 4 years ago
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lol. When I was younger I had a small crush on the teller that was at my bank- and an even smaller account balance. I’d often think of asking out the teller- but then get embarrassed to do so as they seemed so fancy. I never did- and they got married and I did just fine- so I think things worked out ok despite that. But- I’d say this- often bank tellers these days don’t get paid very well. 40 years ago $40k as a bank teller was good money- now many make $40 or less- and having known a few tellers since then- not all are as posh or organized as the job and the way they have to appear for it suggests. Screw it. If you wanna ask- don’t let your bank balance stop you. Regardless- if the relationship goes anywhere- you’ll either have to talk finances or they’ll figure yours out.
guest_
· 4 years ago
If you ask and they say yes- that’s one conversation off the table already- and you know they aren’t likely just with you for money. Or anyway- perhaps you and them aren’t looking for anything serious enough for that to matter and you can just have some fun together. I probably wouldn’t ask out a teller at my regular bank either way- lots of ways that could get awkward or cause problems- but meh. Of all the reasons not to ask- being broke... don’t sweat it so much.
guest_
· 4 years ago
Here’s another true personal story: One of my closest friends, his parents died, he’s putting himself through college- working a so so job and living with roommates anywhere he can afford. And his degree program? Well... he was in school and training for almost a decade, but for a job that would set most people happy for life financially once he was done. To boot? When his parents died he had to quit school for awhile and work to support the rest of his family and himself. Multiple full time jobs- no time for his degree but some vocational classes to help him earn more.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
Ok. So this guy doesn’t really get started on this almost 10 year degree program until he’s about 30. So now he’s a 30 year old college sophomore with like 6 years to go. He lives with 5 people renting a room near the campus in the not so nice part of town. He can’t afford a car and never had time or what he needed to get a drivers license. His life stabilizes enough he has some time and money to date- but he’s paralyzed. Keeps talking about how broke he is and how he has a lousy job and no car and is a 30+ year old student blah blah- hasn’t traveled the world or anything blah blah.
guest_
· 4 years ago
I kept telling him- a GOOD partner isn’t going to see that. I mean- no shit they’ll notice you don’t have a car, you don’t have a lot of cash, etc etc. but- it isn’t where you are that matters to someone who is thinking long term- it is where you are going to BE. Today you are a broke student working a tough shitty job. But you have drive, ambition, goals. You’ll work hard even when the chips are down and you’ll dig yourself out of a hole. His story shows a man who puts his family and loved ones first- who will take care of the people in his life no matter what he has to do- will swallow his pride and put asides wants for needs to provide. Sounds like a good man to have as a long term partner or co head of a family.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
The world is full of obstacles to our happiness. Don’t become an obstacle to your own happiness. Take calculated risks- try for things even when some Voice inside you, or maybe voices of people around you, tell you that you aren’t good enough or that trying is a waste of time. If you’re doing what you should be- working every day to be the best version of yourself you can be- if you are doing what you need to do in order to have the life you want someday, or live the life you want now- the right person who is compatible with that and your values will see that; they’ll see your value. Don’t make that decision for them and decide you can’t stack up before you’ve let them make up their mind. It can be harder on the ego to hear it from their lips- but you doing it to yourself long term is just as damaging or more so to your sense of self.
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