You don't have to apologize. You don't need to take a brave stand, here. Just - the statements listed here are facts. Your life is not a debate.
It's as crazy that you feel people "own" your time or attention as it would be if they insisted all your charging cables were theirs whenever they were low on battery. That's objectively not how reality works.
Don't say 'I don't do it to be rude.' That's weird. Do you think people live their lives to negatively affect you? No? Then quit apologizing for what is crazy-making logic. Live your life and avoid people who make you feel like apologizing for not centering your reality on them. That's, realistically, not an acceptable way to think.
Not blaming the victim, sorry. Not trying to be harsh to you, if this is how you feel. Tbh, I reacted because it's not a healthy way to think.
I myself just "sometimes have limited bandwidth". That's not a problem. I just can't do much. I'll catch up later. No one wants crazy burnt-out debbidownr, but that isn't therefore proof I need to embrace toxic positivity so I can still 'be there' for people. You don't need to, either. No one does. Don't pick up a cross no one who cares about you would ever hand you.
It's as crazy that you feel people "own" your time or attention as it would be if they insisted all your charging cables were theirs whenever they were low on battery. That's objectively not how reality works.
Don't say 'I don't do it to be rude.' That's weird. Do you think people live their lives to negatively affect you? No? Then quit apologizing for what is crazy-making logic. Live your life and avoid people who make you feel like apologizing for not centering your reality on them. That's, realistically, not an acceptable way to think.
I myself just "sometimes have limited bandwidth". That's not a problem. I just can't do much. I'll catch up later. No one wants crazy burnt-out debbidownr, but that isn't therefore proof I need to embrace toxic positivity so I can still 'be there' for people. You don't need to, either. No one does. Don't pick up a cross no one who cares about you would ever hand you.