My grandmother divorced her piece of shit husband to give her kids a better life.
Just to show you how bad a person that fucker was. His own mother moved in with my grandmother instead of him. She lived out the rest of her days with my grandmother even though her son remarried.
My grandmother never remarried she said that her ex was the last man that she ever let in her bed she was better off alone. And she was. She owned her own house worked just down the street of the store she worked for so her gas was low. She raised her son and daughter both went to college.
He wasn’t physically abusive because my grandmother would of beat him to death if he was lol she was like me a sweet heart but you throw the first punch trust me win or lose you will lose teeth.
He was verbally abusive. He gave his kids nothing treated my grandmother like dirt stole grocery money so he can go drinking. He would spend his checks on himself and when bills came he demanded my grandmother pay them.
When she realized she was paying all the bills and if he left she have spare money for things like clothes and toys for the kids she kicked him out.
It was all thanks to the day my Dad went to the hospital for stitches. He walked under a see saw and it cracked his head open. They had him over night and my grandmother asked her husband if he buy my Dad a candy bar he told her fuck no you want it go pay for it yourself.
So she cancelled the payment on her life insurance and got my dad a comic book and candy. And that moment she realized it was time she divorced her husband. She called up a lawyer that day with the rest of her insurance money and got a divorce.
My Dad and aunt was happy he was gone.
The only EVER things good about him was he was a ww2 pilot he went to England to fly before we were officially in the war. Only a few did it. And that is the only good thing.
He died the cartoon way a piano fell on his head. Apparently that really happens lmfao
Divorce rates were low in the past bcz ppl knew what they were getting into.. and knew that an emotional outburst of a person does not define that person..
Its not the same anymore, a lot of us are influenced by movies and dreamy characters who have well written scripts but the real life is not the same at all..
And the physical abuse thing, yeah those ones need to get separated for sure..
I have to somewhat agree. I don’t think higher divorce rates themselves are good- or even an indicator of positive change. I think that people are less legally, socially, and economically pressured to remain in “bad” marriages is good. But as you say- many people have unrealistic ideas about love, or get married because they are “supposed to” and then discover long term monogamy isn’t for them... so many variables.
There are many compelling arguments from psychology and biology and anthropology and many ologies which say humans aren’t designed for long term monogamy. I don’t know if I subscribe to that- I’m a monogamous person. But... I at least agree that some people do not seem to be cut out for it- and that is t about the other partner being “bad” or even “not right” but it can simply be they get “bored” or desire change or do not wish to remain with one person wether they can have others at the same time or not. More important to me than divorce rates is seeing a world where people are free to not be constrained to one idea of how a “legitimate” relationship is structured- without judgment or social repercussions simply for not fitting a mold.
Regardless- I do think a large number of marriages end simply because the people entering them didn’t “take them serious” or really understand what they were getting in to. I think that many people just aren’t willing to put in effort or deal with a person after the “honeymoon” phase is over and after the trickle of hormones drawing us to them (research shows after about 6 years together these hormones effectively stop and the “high” we got from that person physically is replaced by a view of them less influenced by chemical biology.)
Some would say that is a “good” thing- that they should leave and find someone new to make them feel that rush again. I don’t say that’s a bad thing- as long as everyone knows up front the ride is over when it becomes a routine and. It an adventure- but it isn’t how everyone should live. There are aspects of a relationship we can’t experience until we’ve been with a person for some many decades. It’s just a choice- we all try to make the right one but no matter what you do in life- some choices are permanent and mutually exclusive to each other.
Just to show you how bad a person that fucker was. His own mother moved in with my grandmother instead of him. She lived out the rest of her days with my grandmother even though her son remarried.
My grandmother never remarried she said that her ex was the last man that she ever let in her bed she was better off alone. And she was. She owned her own house worked just down the street of the store she worked for so her gas was low. She raised her son and daughter both went to college.
He wasn’t physically abusive because my grandmother would of beat him to death if he was lol she was like me a sweet heart but you throw the first punch trust me win or lose you will lose teeth.
He was verbally abusive. He gave his kids nothing treated my grandmother like dirt stole grocery money so he can go drinking. He would spend his checks on himself and when bills came he demanded my grandmother pay them.
It was all thanks to the day my Dad went to the hospital for stitches. He walked under a see saw and it cracked his head open. They had him over night and my grandmother asked her husband if he buy my Dad a candy bar he told her fuck no you want it go pay for it yourself.
So she cancelled the payment on her life insurance and got my dad a comic book and candy. And that moment she realized it was time she divorced her husband. She called up a lawyer that day with the rest of her insurance money and got a divorce.
My Dad and aunt was happy he was gone.
The only EVER things good about him was he was a ww2 pilot he went to England to fly before we were officially in the war. Only a few did it. And that is the only good thing.
He died the cartoon way a piano fell on his head. Apparently that really happens lmfao
He once stabbed her. With a knife. She was bleeding.
So yea, just BC it lasts doesn't mean it's good.
Its not the same anymore, a lot of us are influenced by movies and dreamy characters who have well written scripts but the real life is not the same at all..
And the physical abuse thing, yeah those ones need to get separated for sure..