Our daughter always wanted her hair dyed she is naturally a strawberry blond originally she was so blond it looked white but it darkened over time. Anyways she always wanted blue hair and we told her no because her school wouldn’t let her.
So covid hits and school is zoomed classes. She brings up coloring her hair again and so since it was her birthday we dyed her hair blue like she wanted. It is now faded to black but she is so happy and loves her hair.
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Blue fading to black? What type of dye did you use? That’s cool as heck!
We dyed her hair deep brown first than did the blue It came out a deep blue kind of like navy blue but when the light hits it it is like old comic book characters hair. You know how they would have black haired characters with like a blue streak in it.
But the blue dye was cheap so it is fading and the dye we used to darken her hair is becoming darker lol so it is kind of fading to black.
Cool I better try that some time. I always bleached it and then added a really rich midnight blue that fades into this wonderful pastel blue after a few weeks.
We were going to do that bleach than dye blue but we did a test on her hair and found it turns her hair green than makes it fall out. I thank god every day I only did a small strand.
I luckily remembered that my husband’s sister had bleached her hair and it came out the same way. Green than began to fall out. She still has a bald spot on the back of her head.
So I was hoping my daughter didn’t get their hair problems but apparently she did.
So we just went to a deep blue instead.
My 2nd to youngest brother does the same to his hair first colors it deep brown than blue. So that is where I got the idea for her hair.
It seems the only hair gene she got from me is the thickness and tender headed. Lol
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Oof yeah it’s super important to use good bleach and to know your scalp. My hair is pretty robust so it can stand a bit of bleaching but I am still very careful with it since it can really damage your skin. Manic panic usually have some pretty good dyes and bleach and All of their products are vegan :) I think it’s cool you found a work around like that!
It depends too. I don’t know Miss C’s daughter’s hair type- but if you have curls- especially very tight curls, bleaching can change/ruin your curl pattern. Most things you can do to hair will “fix” themselves with time and patience when new hair grows in and you cut the old “damaged” hair off. But even “gentle” dyes and bleach or lightening methods can be hard on hair, and if you have very long hair it could take years of work to get your hair back to optimum health/appearance.
Lots of people dye their hair without issue, have hair that is more tolerant or less prone to show the effects of damage- or just don’t care about the “details” as long as it looks good when not viewed by a hair-ophile or scrutinized. To each their own. But it’s always good to be careful and think it through for first time dyers and new processes or chemicals- and having a professional who is skilled and knowledgeable do the work and listen to their advice (sometimes they’ll just tell you flat out they don’t recommend a certain process for you) can be beneficial.
dying your hair only damages the hair that is dyed unless the person doing it majorly fucks up in which case youll have bigger things to worry about than damaged hair.
if everything is done correctly (which isnt actually that hard) once the dyed hair grows out a bit you can cut off the dyed hair and the new hair will be the same as your hair before it got dyed.
in short, there isnt really any reason to not let kids get their hair dyed unless something's rules say they cant like a school or some activity group they are in like sports or chess or whatever.
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just so this isnt only the words of someone on the internet, have some by a professional stylist/colorist that works on celebrities hair, George Papanikolas.
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Papanikolas says the only guaranteed way to restore your hair's health back to its pre-colored state is to cut off the previously colored, bleached, or damaged hair and grow it back. "Then, it will be healthy, virgin hair again, even after bleaching," he says. "The new hair [that is] untouched by chemicals will be virgin."
Hell, swimming in the ocean or using shampoo with a lot of sulfur damages the hair too. I don’t mind a bit of extra hair care if seeing my hair in the morning makes me happy :)
To each their own. It also comes down to hair type and the chemicals used, color, and the quality of work, supplies, and after care. It can take years (depending on hair length etc) to undo the damage of dying, some people don’t mind- and some folks are less picky about the “minute details” of their hair and texture etc. Like many choices you can minimize and mitigate harm and still enjoy the effects of a technically damaging process. It is good to be educated and aware of the particulars before you jump in- but at the end of the day most things you can do to hair will fix themselves with time and trimmers.
i mean, from my perspective it takes maybe a week to undo the damage done by using hair dye cause you only need the hair to grow out a little bit for you to cut the damaged hair off and have fresh new hair growing in under it, tho i presume the reason you say years is because your usage of "undone" means to have the hair be exactly the same length as it was before it was dyed.
Pretty much yes. “Average” growth of hair in the head is usually somewhere between 1/5 of an inch to 1.5 inches a month- depending on age, health, genetics etc. if you have 24” of hair and dye to the roots- at the high average end of 1.5 inches per month- you could keep your hair the same length by cutting about 1.5 inches a month- and the last dyed/damaged hair would be gone after about a year and a quarter. If your hair is longer, or grows slower- or both... it could take several years to have “virgin” hair- but damage asides- unless you are willing to go short or shaved- you’re in for either at least months of having your ends colored different, or needing to dye again to “cover it up” which then... could cause more damage or a longer time before you have “virgin hair.”
I mean yeah dyeing damages hair but so does excessive washing, aggressive shampoos, drying it with a blow-dryer or crunching it in a towel, swimming in the sea, having it out in the rain, wearing too tight buns or ponytails... I could go on but the point is, from my previous interactions with fluffydress, I can safely say they aren't really worried about whether people have healthy hair or not, they just don't like non-conformity. The people with the healthiest hair are probably greasy-haired hippies but I don't think fluffydress would be a fan of those types either.
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They’ll probably be happy to know I just shaved off my hair to look more lesbian then
Nice! Will you donate the hair to charity or was it not long enough? I donated my hair when I cut it short, yay for doing nice things (it was a few years ago tho so it grew back and it's long now).
I was thinking of getting an undercut on the right side of my head but I'm too lazy to maintain it so I just make a little braid on the side of my head to give the appearance of an undercut when I feel like it lol
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That’s a good trick! Maintaining an undercut is a chore lol. I can’t donate it unfortunately since it was dyed blue and pretty short to begin with. I used to have a k-pop boy cut before. Do you cut your hair yourself or go to the barber? (Well maybe they haven’t opened the barbers shops yet but let’s just pretend there’s no worldwide pandemic lol)
The cut I was talking about before was done by my grandma's friend who's a hair dresser but I usually cut it myself. I got it cut into a short bob which is something I wouldn't dare to attempt on my own, but my regular maintenance cuts don't require as much skill so I don't want to waste time and money for something I know how to do better lol
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Exactly! It’s easier to get exactly what you want when you do it yourself rather than trying to explain it to someone :)))
Well... yes and no. It’s circumstantial. To illustrate- “I wouldn’t want people wearing t-shirts and jeans in winter...” why? That’s my usual winter outfit. What else would I wear in 60+ weather and sunny skies? As it turns out- we all have different circumstances. If I lived in Anadyr Russia where its 45 average in June- I may not wear a T-shirt in summer.
Kids are discovering themselves- making mistakes and trying new things out is a way to learn. Even if it was a “mistake”- “small” mistakes and bold things are good to try when you’re young. They generally set you back less in life and you generally have many more years to recover than someone older. The older kids get- the more likely that social pressure and decorum won’t allow them to do things. The world will generally be less cruel to a child for being “cringey” than a full blown adult- and who we were in middle school is often forgotten in high school and especially college- for an adult- people are much less likely to forget that time you made an ass of yourself or went around looking ridiculous for a year.
But that also doesn’t mean we should just let kids do whatever they want if it’s “little” like dying hair or wearing certain clothes etc. Adults need to let kids explore and express themselves- but it’s also an adults job to help teach kids about the world and guide them until they have the experience and fully formed brains to make informed decisions. We also have to remember that childhood and adolescence- and the way the world interacts with us- are formative and powerful in shaping who we become, how we see the world and interact with it as adults, and what traumas we carry around.
With Appearances- we walk a thin line. How we look and how people react to that can effect our confidence and sense of things. A “makeover” or little changes can help a person discover their confidence. However- we can also place too much emphasis on looks, or allow looks or an image to become a substitute for true self confidence: to where we rely on outward appearance to have value. So there are lessons to be learned there and parents have to look at their child and the circumstances- and make a call what they think is best for the child’s development.
Lastly- three unpopular opinions. 1. Part of the job of teaching kids how the world works is to yeach them that people WILL judge you. You can raise them to aspire to be better than society is- but if you send a kid into the real world blind to the fact that often times you won’t be allowed to do whatever you want with your appearance such as work- and that everyone is open minded and liberal about personal style... you’re setting them up for a fall. Mohawks and crazy hair colors are far more acceptable now than even 20 years ago- but they still aren’t the default standard and can cause issues.
2. NOT EVERYONE but many people who “buck the norm” want attention- good or bad. They may want to “bait” people to argue with or feel self righteous or even to feel persecuted. They may want to feel the power of knowing that they make others uncomfortable, or they may want to just feel “different.” Kids often are by default- looking for attention and validation, and as they are finding themselves and inside of themselves often- they tend to want to try and stand out. Given the choice- I’d rather of I have the need to stand out- to work at my achievements than my appearance- but to each their own. My point here is that a parent has to weight the WHY of what a child is asking- they’re helping create a mature human being after all.
3. Kids aren’t professionals generally- but quite often their parents are. A thin line. Dangerous. Contentious. A parent shouldn’t use a child as a pawn or puppet- but the child reflects on the parent, and society will often judge the parent by the child. Maybe not “right” but real. Your conservative boss is likely to see your kid as an extension of you and your values. Your success doesn’t just feed and clothe your child- it can impact their choices for education and your ability to help them succeed in life. At social events like parties and galas and such- that reflection can impact your social standing and thusly your opportunities as well. If other parents see your kid as a “bad egg” or “bad influence” or just as ruining the ambiance- you aren’t getting invites.
So covid hits and school is zoomed classes. She brings up coloring her hair again and so since it was her birthday we dyed her hair blue like she wanted. It is now faded to black but she is so happy and loves her hair.
But the blue dye was cheap so it is fading and the dye we used to darken her hair is becoming darker lol so it is kind of fading to black.
I luckily remembered that my husband’s sister had bleached her hair and it came out the same way. Green than began to fall out. She still has a bald spot on the back of her head.
So I was hoping my daughter didn’t get their hair problems but apparently she did.
So we just went to a deep blue instead.
My 2nd to youngest brother does the same to his hair first colors it deep brown than blue. So that is where I got the idea for her hair.
It seems the only hair gene she got from me is the thickness and tender headed. Lol
if everything is done correctly (which isnt actually that hard) once the dyed hair grows out a bit you can cut off the dyed hair and the new hair will be the same as your hair before it got dyed.
in short, there isnt really any reason to not let kids get their hair dyed unless something's rules say they cant like a school or some activity group they are in like sports or chess or whatever.
just so this isnt only the words of someone on the internet, have some by a professional stylist/colorist that works on celebrities hair, George Papanikolas.
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Papanikolas says the only guaranteed way to restore your hair's health back to its pre-colored state is to cut off the previously colored, bleached, or damaged hair and grow it back. "Then, it will be healthy, virgin hair again, even after bleaching," he says. "The new hair [that is] untouched by chemicals will be virgin."
I was thinking of getting an undercut on the right side of my head but I'm too lazy to maintain it so I just make a little braid on the side of my head to give the appearance of an undercut when I feel like it lol