Let me put it this way:
Picture an underage girl who wanted to have sex with an older male.
See even if at that time she may feel she wants to do it, it would more than likely make her feel damaged later in life due to it. Because though she thought she was physically ready to do so she really wasn’t mentally ready for such a situation. There is more to sex than the act alone. also most people don’t realize that sex is not always pleasant for everyone. Plus it is never what you think it be like.
So now just reverse the gender because honestly just assuming an underage male would be more capable of dealing with the weight of such a decision is beyond stupid.
There is a reason why it is against the law for adults to be with underage kids in that way. Even just talking to them in that way.
Romeo and Juliet may of been kids but they were also fictional.
This person is an adult, yet doesn’t understand that adults are in positions of power, trust, authority, and advantage over an underage person in general. How then would they expect a child to understand those facts? Even a young teen will tend to think they are on equal footing, or that a sexual relationship with an older person puts them on equal footing. When a person engages in such activity with an underage person, who generally cannot fully understand and cannot give informed consent- it is NOT for the child’s benefit, it is for their OWN benefit. They are using that person for gratification. Wether a person feels exploited in sex by another, wether they are 15 or 50- boils down largely to wether they feel they were making an informed decision or were deceived or coerced. There isn’t an example in memory of such a relationship I am aware of where I’d say the child was not somehow taken advantage of.
To put it simply: most any adult realizes that it would be wrong to place a child in a boxing ring with an adult for a fight. Most any person would realize that even if your child tells you that they want to eat nothing but butter, even if they tell you that they understand the risks and benefits of starting steroid use- it is an adults duty to defer such decisions until that child is of age that they have amassed the experience and knowledge to do such a thing. But- what I can say is that IF the question is genuine- IF this person truly doesn’t understand it and is asking so they can learn and grow- I can’t be too upset at them. Ignorance is something we are all guilty of, but not so many of us actively seek to shed light on our ignorance. Shaming people for not knowing- even simple things- isn’t the way to encourage people to learn and grow.
Agreed- but I suppose that’s the misconception with “common sense.” We often hear it bemoaned that there is a lack of common sense in the world- but.... the key there is”common,” not “sense” as many equate the word to mean. In a homogenous society, especially one which doesn’t embrace new ideas often or readily- it is easy to share “common sense” because you have a narrow perspective. The price of diversity is that sense is not common- that is- shared, because perspectives and experiences are so diverse.
In other words- “common sense” is less the sense of “common” as in- mundane or simple- and more the sense of “shared.” We can’t really understand people who are significantly different from us through “common sense” as we do not share the same way of thinking. For example- europeans are often confounded by certain ways Americans think or act, as are Asians- but each group is also confounded by the others. From simple things like manners to meals to how to use the bathroom, who pays for a check in a group, so on- all the way up to major philosophies on a persons responsibilities to society or what the meaning of freedom is. So while as humans we share so much regardless of where we are from- so much of our lives and histories and experiences are different- that whenever we are flummoxed by someone else- they probably feel the same about us.
Picture an underage girl who wanted to have sex with an older male.
See even if at that time she may feel she wants to do it, it would more than likely make her feel damaged later in life due to it. Because though she thought she was physically ready to do so she really wasn’t mentally ready for such a situation. There is more to sex than the act alone. also most people don’t realize that sex is not always pleasant for everyone. Plus it is never what you think it be like.
So now just reverse the gender because honestly just assuming an underage male would be more capable of dealing with the weight of such a decision is beyond stupid.
There is a reason why it is against the law for adults to be with underage kids in that way. Even just talking to them in that way.
Romeo and Juliet may of been kids but they were also fictional.