I'd prefer to adpot older because it means I won't have to deal with toilet training them or trying to stop the forces of chaos from guinding their fingers towards every bladed object in the house
I wouldn’t mind adopting a kid that’s been potty trained already. I don’t wanna be pregnant, but I wouldn’t mind raising a kid.
I feel like I’d be up for raising a teen as well
That's so heartwarming.
This is definitely an unpopular opinion but tbh I find it kinda... selfish? To scoff at adoption and make a kid when there are so many kids in need of a home. Like, what makes your genes so special that they need to be spread instead of giving your home to a kid that needs it? Yes, yes, biological drive to procreate etc. but humans have been able to achieve what we've achieved only by cooperating so we might as well help people that need it, no?
I agree. It seems backwards that you need a good reason to justify adopting (i.e. infertility) but having bio kids is the norm. You should have to justify why your genes are worth reproducing. Nobody asks parents why they're having kids, and it's very difficult to come up with an answer that isn't selfish.
Right? Oh I'm so relieved that someone agrees, I fully expected the opposite because it just seems like the kind of thing people would get offended by. Most people have kids because they want to, and that's it. I personally don't want kids, and if I wanted to raise a kid I'd choose adoption. Yet people always treat me like a total freak of nature. "What do you mean you don't want to bring a child into this utterly broken overpopulated world? Preposterous!" Any justification for having a biological kid instead of adopting is usually "because I want to, and I want it to be MY kid" which is just selfish and very confident of people to think that their genes are so great they must be spread. Now i wouldn't call for policy action in that regard because it sort of seems like a slippery slope towards eugenics, but maybe it'd be nice to see a shift in discourse, so that adoption isn't always treated like the very last resort.
I feel like I’d be up for raising a teen as well
This is definitely an unpopular opinion but tbh I find it kinda... selfish? To scoff at adoption and make a kid when there are so many kids in need of a home. Like, what makes your genes so special that they need to be spread instead of giving your home to a kid that needs it? Yes, yes, biological drive to procreate etc. but humans have been able to achieve what we've achieved only by cooperating so we might as well help people that need it, no?