Conflating respect with kindness or politeness is pretty common misapprehension. Respect is earned simply because you can't respect someone until you known them for a length of time. It's hard to have a deep admiration for someone if you know nothing about them. Whereas you can treat everyone with kindness or politely while you determine whether they are worthy of your respect.
On the flip side respect can also be demanded by those with power over you. Since respect doesn't require you to like the person merely understand they can ruin/end your life and those around you based on their whims.
Which makes you a good person and is respectable in and of itself. An individual can only demonstrate their respect for others by their actions; until we learn how to read minds. Which brings in that other word Honor. Your personal honor is not reliant on others which is why you treat people with kindness and politeness. This in turn generates respect for yourself which is honestly earned by the actions you perform. Lovely little circle don't you think?
On the flip side respect can also be demanded by those with power over you. Since respect doesn't require you to like the person merely understand they can ruin/end your life and those around you based on their whims.