creativedragonbaby · 44 weeks ago
My grandfather passed away this morning.
I didn't see him all that much, but he was a good man.
Why am I not crying?
mikriarktos · 44 weeks ago
Why do you think that ?
parisqeen · 44 weeks ago
Nothing's wrong with you dragon that's normal, everyone is different when they grieve and even if you were close to them sometimes it can take up to 2 weeks before your brain actually starts realising they're gone, then you start crying.
I was similar with my Papa, I didn't cry just because I didn't know him that well but that doesn't make you a bad person
mikriarktos · 44 weeks ago
Yeah, it was the same with me. It's perfectly fine Dragon.
We all have our ways to deal with this kind of stuff but it doesn't mean you're a feel less robot or bad
creativedragonbaby · 44 weeks ago
I feel really bad as well because my parents say I don't have to go to school tomorrow even though I'm fine.
creativedragonbaby · 44 weeks ago
I don't even know what I'll do tomorrow. I can do my work, I guess....
mikriarktos · 44 weeks ago
Yeah, do what you do everyday.
Those things just take a bit of time to realise
spookykink57 · 44 weeks ago
Happened same with me after my Maternal Grandpa death. I didn't shed a tear on the day it happened. But after a month. One day suddenly I cried and I was inconsolable, I cried for hours and hours and said to my parents that I want him back,but how could they. I was 5 at that time so didn't understood the concept of death. Whenever I visited Grandma's house. I always said where is he? And they used to say that he has gone for a work trip. My family used to make me talk to my uncle in my Grandpa's voice to make me believe that He was on a trip. And everytime before I hung up I used to say Please next time be here and everyone's eyes used to get all teary but they didn't used to cry. He was a very tough man to everyone but he was as soft as a rose petal to me. Now as I have grown up and I realised what Death is. I don't hold on to it anymore. Or any death in my family. But Still Miss the guy. He was amazing. Man my eyes got all watery while typing this.
spookykink57 · 44 weeks ago
spookykink57 · 44 weeks ago
So I would say. Nothing is wrong with you. You are perfectly fine. Crying is not only thing which depicts that you are grieving. Some people stay as it is but that thing drills a hole in their mind.
Or some people just go on and then one day it kicks in and you cry inconsolably.
So just let things take their course. You will be fine.
ironsky · 44 weeks ago
I'm pretty sure that's common and normal
creativedragonbaby · 44 weeks ago
Thanks guys ^_^
hermionegranger · 43 weeks ago
Yeah perfectly normal. I have an undying love for my maternal grandmother, yet when she died I didn't shed a tear. Made me feel awkward in a room of crying family members. I only cried a few weeks later in private.
captainjackharknes · 43 weeks ago
Same. The wife of my uncle, who technically isn't related to me, since some shit idk even know anymore, years ago became deceased from reasons I wish not to speak of, and I just couldn't seem to actually feel sad or anything. We went to Missouri immediately, where they lived, and after the funeral, one night, i just went outside after my dad and uncle went out, and stood by the grave. All of a sudden, it all just gushed out. I cried, I screamed, and I just grieved. It wasn't pretty, and after maybe half an hour, I went inside, cleaned myself up, and pretended it never happened.