chu · 7 years ago
My prediction is that I'll put all my mind and body into work and heading a club (which is taking fucking forever to get going and I'm losing motivation on that too because fuck you tylerchu) and when I look back, I'll see zero heart and soul in my work and that's a damn shame because I want to be proud of what I do but I have nothing to be proud of.
parisqeen · 7 years ago
I think you should be proud of what you've accomplished so far because it sounds like you've done a lot. It's a lot harder to be motivated when your uncertain of the path you want to take so I think the best thing to do is think back onto why you wanted to be an engineer in the first place, if the answer is different from back then you may need to pursue a different passion, if it's the same then rekindle your motivation and go for it. I think the start of the semester can be the hardest because you have to mentally prepare for all the work ahead of you but you'll get there. If your worried about the money and effort then you might just need to stick it out until your course is over, work hard so by the end of it even if it's not what you want to be, you're still proud of what you've done. After that, look into what makes you happy and then find a job that does the same. Sorry I can't give anymore advise but good luck, I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
thedarkknightess · 7 years ago
Dear chu, I'm going through a similar "crisis".
I cry everyday because of the amount of time and money I'm wasting and because of all the people I'm letting down. I used to be a great student (sorry if I sound arrogant) and now I'm... completely lost.
I tried to talk with my parents: even though they didn't quite understand (it's my last year and they think I'm being childish), I felt relieved. I was thorougly honest with them about my feelings and they were desperate at the beginning, but now they're trying to help.
Then I spoke to my professors (especially the one who's helping me with my thesis) and they said everyone questions their life choices at some point, which is fine, because it's all part of growing up. Their suggestion is to stop whining and go practising, so that I can understand if that's really the job for me. I found out that this is very useful - for me, at least: DOING things and not always reading them on books restored a bit of my long lost motivation.
thedarkknightess · 7 years ago
The act of studying is still challenging, I must admit, but I noticed that if I repeat with someone else (like in a study group) it gets so much easier: when you "fight" alone some subjects and their exams are hugely discouraging and seem a lot tougher than they really are.
Well, chu, what I know for sure is that if I drop my studies now I'll regret this forever. I couldn't bear living with that feeling. I mean, you get used to it, but it's always there. I'm going to try my best to get my degree: only afterwards I'll decide what to do with my life.
You haven't said much about your situation, though.
Are your parents understanding or do they put a lot of pressure on you?
Is there something that is distracting you? For example my "crisis" emerged after a stressful period in which my granddad got sick and then died: it destroyed me and diverted my mind from my objectives.
Do you enjoy life apart from studying? Going out with friends, reading books, climbing, I don't know. Very important.
thedarkknightess · 7 years ago
PS: @parisqeen, you always speak words of wisdom.
parisqeen · 7 years ago
Thanks beb, I'm glad you took action against what was worrying you. I hope you're at a better place now and you're happy with what you're studying
unicycle · 7 years ago
I just want anyone who's struggling with things like this to know that you're never stuck on a certain path, no matter how much it seems that way. I was a few months away from getting my PhD when I realised I hated working in that field. I loved the subject but couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life working in that environment. So I completed my degree then went right back to university for another in a completely different field. Now I have a job I love and I wake up excited for work. We all lose motivation sometimes and question our path, you just have to decide if you're willing to make changes or if this is a temporary feeling.
eternal1 · 7 years ago
Choose computer or electrical engineer cuz the rest barely make any money and are in far less demand
silvermyth · 7 years ago
I'm afraid that I won't be good enough for astrophysics. I am beginning to lose faith, because it is incredibly hard.
unicycle · 7 years ago
@silvermyth If you really enjoy it then keep at it. Physics can seem daunting but it does get easier as you go on (the material isn't necessarily less challenging but you're better prepared to handle it). You don't have to give up on something difficult because you are definitely good enough.
silvermyth · 7 years ago
Thanks, unicycle. I just hope it's a sufficiently useful job.
unicycle · 7 years ago
Lol, I have a degree in theoretical physics so I know how you feel but honestly if you like it then who cares if it's useful.
unicycle · 7 years ago
Same fucking thing.
silvermyth · 7 years ago
I've liked all of that sort of stuff- nuclear, theoretical, everything for a while now. I doubt I'll lose interest. Thank you.