Not necessarily, my mum was the same way. She knew it was going to happen eventually, so instead of making sex a huge taboo in our household, when I turned 17 she bought a box of condoms and left them in our bathroom in a cute box for my girl friends and I. Then, they wouldn't have to go through the awkward buy it themselves thing, but would still be protected against STIs and unwanted pregnancies. If kids want to do something, they'll do it regardless of what an adult may want. It may be safer for everyone this way, so I don't see how this is "horrible parenting." Sorry, rant over.
I actually think there was a movie about this, or at least somewhere near this. It was called "The Pregnancy Pact" I think. It is based on a true story, where the girls all got pregnant around the same time on purpose, and the nurse noticed the pregnancy ratings where going up, and she knew kids really do not like to listen (except me) especially when the daughter of leader of the abstinence program got pregnant, but no one really listened to the nurse about handing out pregnancy-protection, because they thought"giving them the items will encourage them to do the nasty" eventually they listened to the nurse when the media blew it up. And I do agree with bellatrix. Kids nowadays (nothing against those who do) just cant keep there pants on. (sorry for another long post)
My stance is similar to bellatrix. While I myself don't want to have sex right now, and I don't need to either, I would much rather have someone do it safely. So, if both people know what they are doing, are aware of the risks, can support themselves, and it's all consensual, then do it safely. Go forth and (safely) copulate, if you want to!
No I hate to tell you but doing so is just like giving your kids the go ahead. Sure it's great kids go ahead and screw it's no big. It wasn't taboo in my house growing up but my parents also weren't wreckless adults who said here is the go ahead and do it either.
I would rather give my child the things she needs to have safe sex and talk to her about what to do if she feels pressured or uncomfortable than have her get knocked up in the backseat of some loser's '94 Honda civic. I don't see it as condoning the action, merely preparing for the inevitable.
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