You just described what the friendzone is. It's a relationship in which one party wants a romantic and/or sexual relationship from another in a friendship while the other doesn't.
Yup. I think the whole blaming of the uninterested party for not immediately being interested in them, and then only being nice to them in hopes of forming a relationship is messed up. You aren't even a friend if all you want from someone is a relationship.
You can grow to become attracted to someone. A person can be placed in the friendzone originally because of lingering feelings for someone else that then fade, not being in the right place for a relationship at the time, wanting to know a person well before starting any more serious relationship (wanting a firm foundation of at least LIKING someone before jumping head first physically) or any number of reasons. I think people simplify the "friendzone" to mean "she wants a nice guy - I'm a nice guy - why doesn't she want me" when each person has a back story, feelings, history. Sometimes things change, sometimes they don't. Sometimes it has to do with physical attraction. Sometimes it doesn't. A girl isn't a bitch for friendzoning someone, a guy isn't a douche that feels entitled to sex by simply wanting to leave the friendzone - but with communication, even if nothing changes, by respecting the other person's humanity and well-being I think this whole "friendzone" thing would work out
You know what's worse than friendzone? For me that's girlfriend zone.. when you find out the only reason he wants to be with you is he could be your boyfriend otherwise he can't even stand you :,-(
4 months ago I was told, "friendship" is all she could offer me. I bit cause she's lovely. This past week weve gone to a Hockey game, got drinks during sunday night football, and a movie date. You can totally get out of it! The best part is I didn't know the hockey game was a date until I took her home.
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