Yes, but you’re creeper-good at finding things out.
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Btw, where did you get your name from? Yours and Bethoriens’ are my favourites. They sound... mystical, noble, sexy... generally cool
This is pretty bad, but we seem to be overreaching on defining this as "abuse." There's really no equivalent to what's presented (not stalking a former BF, but being stupid and pushy with someone who isn't bothered enough to break up with her) and being smacked around by someone bigger than you.
"I'll hurt myself if you don't do what I want you to do and it will all be your fault" is absolutely abuse in this context. Emotional and verbal. I'd say you're underreaching the definition of abuse.
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Going through someone's phone or messaging them and then constantly antagonizing them and accusing them and attacking them because they don't respond immediately or because they may or may not at some point have had contact with someone with a vagina is abusive behaviour. He absolutely could and should break up with her, but that doesn't negate the fact that she is using her position in the relationship to belittle, guilt, manipulate, attack, and threaten him.
@shikharizard I'm not sure if you just like fighting or if you're simply bored <.<
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tbh I've had people say similar things, and I've known people who had SOs who made similar threats and it's one of the most insidious manipulations a person can do but at the end of the day you absolutely can't stay in that relationship
Bored for sure, and no I dont ENJOY it- but I never shy away from a fight.
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Yeah I'd be outta that shit so quick. I was just thinking about it today, my first gf was soooooooo manipulative. Such a user. Idk how I didn't figure that out, but I was young and dumb... and attracted.
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Live and learn
Well for both me and at least one of the people I know it didn't happen until the end so. Sometimes it's hard to tell when people are being manipulative. We make excuses or we just don't see it. Or we choose not to see it, for reasons like what you stated.
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Also I understand feeling jealous if you think your SO finds someone else attractive. You can't necessarily HELP feeling that way if it happens. It's when people act on it that it becomes a huge problem. And in scenarios like this text exchange, the way she lashes out is entirely a projection of this girl's own insecurities.
Well I couldn't decide if I wanted to add anything else to that comment or if I was done. Then I accidentally hit the post comment button, so I guess I was
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Btw, where did you get your name from? Yours and Bethoriens’ are my favourites. They sound... mystical, noble, sexy... generally cool
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Going through someone's phone or messaging them and then constantly antagonizing them and accusing them and attacking them because they don't respond immediately or because they may or may not at some point have had contact with someone with a vagina is abusive behaviour. He absolutely could and should break up with her, but that doesn't negate the fact that she is using her position in the relationship to belittle, guilt, manipulate, attack, and threaten him.
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tbh I've had people say similar things, and I've known people who had SOs who made similar threats and it's one of the most insidious manipulations a person can do but at the end of the day you absolutely can't stay in that relationship
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Yeah I'd be outta that shit so quick. I was just thinking about it today, my first gf was soooooooo manipulative. Such a user. Idk how I didn't figure that out, but I was young and dumb... and attracted.
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Live and learn
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Also I understand feeling jealous if you think your SO finds someone else attractive. You can't necessarily HELP feeling that way if it happens. It's when people act on it that it becomes a huge problem. And in scenarios like this text exchange, the way she lashes out is entirely a projection of this girl's own insecurities.