Going to avoid the drama that's happening in the other chain, but sadly I can relate to this. I used to have a speech impediment that I didn't know about, and people would get me to repeat things and ask me stuff because I said it weird and they'd mock me for it. I didn't know that they were 'curious' about the subject because of that back then.
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However, I'm ever so thankful to be away from that. It was simply toxic. Bullying of all sizes hurts people.
I was in the same situation when I moved to another country for high school and Uni and my accent was different. I'm working now and it still happens. So I've turned into a quiet person but I really love talking to people but I end up not doing it because I'm scared they'll make fun of my accent.
The thing is it doesn't stop
People gonna bully even when you're grown-up cause tbh, you're not the problem
They are
Bullies gonna bully for literally anything or nothing at all
Bc you're different or the same as the rest, or just bc they feel like it
So I say, just fuck it. Don't give a flying shit about it
You know your worth, your values and "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
I'm grateful that I was never bullied as a child.. Someone tried to bully me at university and tried to make me look like a bad person but fortunately I was old enough to not let it affect me (much). If it had happened in school I would have lost it
The worst thing is no matter what you would answer (I was able to understand it was a trap after around 4/5th grade and would try to avoid it) they would ALWAYS find it funny you could respond genuinely, say leave me alone,give a sarcastic/fake answer, yell at them, tell on them, even pretend they are not there and they will ALWAYS laugh
Feels sad man
I have moved schools since and am rarely/never bothered but it messed me up real bad I don't trust anyone besides close friends and family at all anymore
I was friends with this girl and her sister for years until one day they told they had just been friends with me out of pity and that we we're never really friends and the never actually liked me in front of a room full of people, Benn friendless since
I was the big kid who didn't fight back, and certainly didn't initiate a physical fight in response to verbal abuse. Also, bullies love to do their bullying when there's a group of them but you're alone. I didn't want to get in trouble by getting suspended or expelled, and the way I was brought up, you didn't settle insults with fists. Plus, I really really didn't want to hurt someone in, say, 6th grade over stupid insults. So, I got to eat a lot of $#+ over the years. You can't ever let on how much it hurts to be picked on and on top of that nobody seems to care too much about it. It seems like it's you vs the world, and the people who aren't against you are neutral. Even if you ever did fight back, it'd be framed as you picking on someone and not the truth of you defending yourself against a group that had tormented you for years.
I ran out of space to finish the story. At 13 I got into weightlifting to get in shape to play football. I also,grew 6 inches that year, and 4 the next. I still got bullied, especially by older kids plus there was this little weasel kid in my grade who was always backed up by his big brother and the brother's friends. Plus, littler guys just love it when the big kid won't fight them so they can prove their bravery by tormenting him.
At 15 the weather was nice the last week of school, so we got to go outside at lunch. There wasn't enough teacher supervision for such a large group over a large area. There was this special needs kid that was getting kicked around by one of my tormentors and his friends, even as he kept trying to just walk away. Whatever kept me from fighting broke that day, and I shoved the main bully away from the kid. They looked eager for a 3on 1 fight, but apparently the look in my eye said "I don't care how bad I get hurt, I'm going to give as good as I get"
This is true but people also need to realize that the people who did these things were just worthless assholes and most people aren’t like that so they need to toughen up and move on. Stop continuing to be the victim, grow up, move on, get over it. It really is that easy. So sick of this pansy assed mentality of today’s world.
People are mean to people, shocking. Get over it.
Yup, you're right. I'll totally just get over being mocked and teased and harassed and bullied from kindergarten to 12th grade. I'm cured. You should be a therapist.
There's a pretty massive difference between adults being assholes to each other, and adults being rude to young children who aren't even fully developed yet.
At the age this shit happens, there is no way to "suck it up". It's hit a person in the wrong spots at the wrong time.
Actions like this can affect a person for life, no matter how they try to grow past it.
Cry me a fucking river. 99% of people were bullied or harassed in some way shape or form during their youth. You can either grow from it and learn to take a few physical and mental gut punches or you can let it consume you to the point where you’re offended by and afraid of everything. It’s your choice.
It's not that we're weak. We've been in the dark so long that we don't trust the light.
When I was younger, I didn't understand sarcasm, or double meanings. Kids took advantage of that. Teased me and were cruel to me because I didn't understand. I was an easy target. I wasn't playing the victim either. I got up. I walked it off. I ignored it. But then I couldn't. It felt like everything was against me. I couldn't trust because it had been broken again and again. I was scared of people. Kick a dog enough and it will keep far away from you. I had been kicked by everyone. So I didn't trust anyone. I was scared of people because people had hurt me before.
It isn't weak. It's wary, scared, afraid because the outcome has been the same countless times before.
I fought. Time and again. But people kept coming. I tried. I never showed weakness to them.
I fought back. More people came.
I got through it eventually. But it is painful, it's hard, it's a long struggle.
Not only are you actively calling every person who tries to be kind weak, but you are condoning than no one ever is kind to one another. Because "that's weak".
You're so great at talking to people. You probably have so many friends who rely on you for emotional support.
And yeah, most people were bullied in some form but that doesn't mean it's just something you can dust your pants off from and forget about it. Bullying scars people so badly that there are literal children who kill themselves before even hitting puberty because they've been bullied so bad. Just because people are scarred from trauma doesn't mean they're playing the victim. You can go fuck yourself.
Jesus Christ. All the sob stories sound exactly the same. It's almost like they've read it so many times on the internet they exaggerate their memories to make it sound like their story is the saddest sobbiest of them all. Pansy assed mentality of today's world strikes again.
Seriously, bullying sucks. It truly does and I'd never wish it on anybody. But also, it's not as extreme and whatnot as today's society makes it out as being. Toughen up, smarten up, get over it. Life goes on. Karma's a birch. People get what they deserve in the end. Stop letting shit you can't control take over control of your life.
Or perhaps they're over exaggerating their experiences is an overly dramatic way? Maybe? Possibly? Maybe you were fat when you were younger and people called you fat for no other reason than that they're fucking assholes and maybe you shouldn't let that bother you 15 years later??? Possibly? Hmmmmmm???
Ok I'm done. Obviously my blunt take on life offends today's buttery soft youth. I apologize for not catering to your every emotional need and abiding by the safe space rules of the internet comments section.
You call people weak
You have no way of knowing what they've gone through.
You don't know
You call it weak and say that they should've done something about it.
You think we didn't try?
What do you think happend when we fought back? The problems went away? No. They pushed us down harder.
It's not weak. It's scared, scarred, and tired.
So you think you know more about people's trauma than they do ? And it doesn't matter what it was but people have a right to be upset about bullying. Hell, I even said above that I was bullied most of my life and you told me to cry a river because 99% of people go through " some form " of bullying.
And you're acting as if were all special snowflakes upset someone's knee was an inch too close to us. No. This post was about bullying, actual bullying, that your telling the victims of that their experiences don't matter and they're just too soft.
We're talking about kids here. The difference in size and strenght at those ages is so vast that in some cases it's impossible to fight back and if you try the bully will use it to his/hers advantage. Also you should never respond with physical violence to words. The problem with bullying isn't exaggerating what happened, rather it leaves permanent scars because of your age when it happened. If everything I went through happened to me now I wouldn't give a shit and just move on, but when you're a kid your world view is so much smaller and you don't understand everything you do now and you're not fully developed. If you then grow up and develop with all of the negativity they will affect you in ways you can't control. Depression is literally a sickness, an imbalance im the brain. @betterthanyou saying to shrug it off is like telling someone to just walk off their AIDS and thay it will get better if they stop thinking about it. It's a sickness, not self victimization, ignorant bastard.
@famousone@betterthanyou I finished five years or studying psychology and science, and you are talking absolute bullpoopie. How would you like it if someone broke your same arm, repeatedly, before it even gets chance to heal, using different tricks and traps? Your arm would be pretty messed up at the end. Even worse, let us say they (the people who break your arm) pretend to be your friend, and to top it off, nobody believes you if you say that they broke your arm, because these little dipsticks are favoured and loved and they've got everyone fooled. Later on, you might start thinking that it is your own fault for being so gullible to have your arm broken over and over again, but in reality, you haven't done anything wrong. You might even, in really bad cases, believe that you are of so little worth to others (also seeing that nobody would believe you) and such a misfit, that it is only logical that you must somehow deserve to fall for their traps. Karma, as you would call it.
You call what I said bullshit. I call what I said my own personal experiences. “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” At the end of the day it’s the individuals responsibility to take control of their lives and who they let influence it. Bullying will happen, it’s your job to put a stop to it or learn to ignore it. Seriously it’s not rocket science, hence why I think people that let it get to them are weak minded. Sticks and stones man. Know your own self worth and nothing anybody says will have any impact on you. If you go through life expecting people to be polite and positive towards you then you’re going to have a reaaaaallllllyyyy hard time. When you learn that people are worthless assholes that say and do asshole-ish things from time to time for no apparent reason other than to try and make you upset then you’ll be just fine.
You seriously can't grasp how psychology works with children, can you? You're so missinformed on the matter that it hurts. It's not as simple as "get a hold of yourself". It's rarely that simple. Very rarely. It's also an entirely differrnt thing being mean as a kid and as an adult. When you're a kid it affects you a lot more because kids are still developing and getting bullied at that age will affect them a lot. Also you compare everything to 'your' experience and think everything else is bullshit when what you say go against 100 years of psychological knowledge. It's like saying shell shock is just made up. Depression developed from bullying might not necessarily be as severe, but it's just as real.
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However, I'm ever so thankful to be away from that. It was simply toxic. Bullying of all sizes hurts people.
People gonna bully even when you're grown-up cause tbh, you're not the problem
They are
Bullies gonna bully for literally anything or nothing at all
Bc you're different or the same as the rest, or just bc they feel like it
So I say, just fuck it. Don't give a flying shit about it
You know your worth, your values and "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Feels sad man
At 15 the weather was nice the last week of school, so we got to go outside at lunch. There wasn't enough teacher supervision for such a large group over a large area. There was this special needs kid that was getting kicked around by one of my tormentors and his friends, even as he kept trying to just walk away. Whatever kept me from fighting broke that day, and I shoved the main bully away from the kid. They looked eager for a 3on 1 fight, but apparently the look in my eye said "I don't care how bad I get hurt, I'm going to give as good as I get"
People are mean to people, shocking. Get over it.
At the age this shit happens, there is no way to "suck it up". It's hit a person in the wrong spots at the wrong time.
Actions like this can affect a person for life, no matter how they try to grow past it.
When I was younger, I didn't understand sarcasm, or double meanings. Kids took advantage of that. Teased me and were cruel to me because I didn't understand. I was an easy target. I wasn't playing the victim either. I got up. I walked it off. I ignored it. But then I couldn't. It felt like everything was against me. I couldn't trust because it had been broken again and again. I was scared of people. Kick a dog enough and it will keep far away from you. I had been kicked by everyone. So I didn't trust anyone. I was scared of people because people had hurt me before.
It isn't weak. It's wary, scared, afraid because the outcome has been the same countless times before.
I fought back. More people came.
I got through it eventually. But it is painful, it's hard, it's a long struggle.
And yeah, most people were bullied in some form but that doesn't mean it's just something you can dust your pants off from and forget about it. Bullying scars people so badly that there are literal children who kill themselves before even hitting puberty because they've been bullied so bad. Just because people are scarred from trauma doesn't mean they're playing the victim. You can go fuck yourself.
Seriously, bullying sucks. It truly does and I'd never wish it on anybody. But also, it's not as extreme and whatnot as today's society makes it out as being. Toughen up, smarten up, get over it. Life goes on. Karma's a birch. People get what they deserve in the end. Stop letting shit you can't control take over control of your life.
Ok I'm done. Obviously my blunt take on life offends today's buttery soft youth. I apologize for not catering to your every emotional need and abiding by the safe space rules of the internet comments section.
You have no way of knowing what they've gone through.
You don't know
You call it weak and say that they should've done something about it.
You think we didn't try?
What do you think happend when we fought back? The problems went away? No. They pushed us down harder.
It's not weak. It's scared, scarred, and tired.
You are wrong. Get off your high horse. You're just like us. You're no better than anyone here.
And you're acting as if were all special snowflakes upset someone's knee was an inch too close to us. No. This post was about bullying, actual bullying, that your telling the victims of that their experiences don't matter and they're just too soft.
That guest was me