sadly true. I remember in elementary school after my mom died I was really sad and eating was kind of how I coped with it so I was overweight, and I'll always remember this one guy who every time he saw me.made fun of me by comparing me to a hippo or a whale and telling everyone I was gonna eat them if they didn't stay away from me and even though I've lost weight and am much healthier these days I'm still self-conscious and uncomfortable eating around other people
I was called ugly/fat a lot growing up and it made it very difficult for me to accept compliments..even from my husband. He'll tell me I look pretty or beautiful and sometimes I worry that he's only saying it because he feels like that's what a husband is supposed to do. That's the part that hurts the most
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Same here. I wasn't the prettiest thing growing up and I had lots of boys asking me out..As a joke or a bet. Even when I got up the courage to ask a boy out it was a no because "you're too short" or "you're ugly". The worst thing was I really liked this boy in my year in year 11 for a long time and one day we got kind of close, we kissed/made out and thought he was going to ask me out. Nope. He asked me to give him a blow job. He thought I'd be more willing to be giving as I'd not had much positive attention from boys. I said no. He called me a "frigid bitch". Told him to fuck off and punch him in the dick. Then came the slut rumours.
My fiance is the same, 5 years in and she still worries I don't think she's beautiful. It breaks my heart because she believes it from other people. Its also hard for me to take compliments from superiors about my work because in school and at home I was always told I was lazy amd didn't work hard.
I was overweight as a teenager and my siblings used to tease me incessantly about it. Then one day they stopped and reversed behavior, telling me how handsome I was. I know now that they had an assembly or school event that made them want to encourage rather than dismiss. But no didn't know that, and I thought their compliments were just disguises for harsher insults, and it was those that chipped away at me, because I thought they were just pity, guilt or scorn.
I was always something of a joke back in school too. I got to the point of making the joke before they did..."you know what you are?"
Me- yeah, fat, ugly, stupid, I smell funny, I have no friends and I'm going to die alone. Did I miss anything?
Took the sting out of their slurs but after a while I started to believe it.
You may even mean it as a compliment, but believe me, it doesn't feel like it
Me- yeah, fat, ugly, stupid, I smell funny, I have no friends and I'm going to die alone. Did I miss anything?
Took the sting out of their slurs but after a while I started to believe it.
Literally nobody gave a shit.