Don't set yourself on fire, to keep other people warm.
If you love someone, you help them not do everything for them. Cause when you do, they'll think it's your job, your duty when it's actually a choice
But they don't appreciate that choice of your
There is a saying that goes ''“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
True, but sometimes the only love you have is what you can give to someone else.
It is also true that most people are special but there are some of us that are nameless, faceless, replaceable, and forgettable. I'm not feeling sorry for myself, I accept my role in this world. For people like me, there is no happy ending but what I can do is try to help someone else be just a bit happier, maybe give one more smile in their life. That is what makes me happy.
Don't say shit like ''someone like me''
The truth is none of us matter at all, we're all on a freaking flying ball in the endless universe
But it's your life, you're the main character of your very life, you're what matters the most
Your value is on you and seeing if you're worthy of happiness is on you
If you keep telling yourself ''it's not happening'' that you're just a little shadow in this life while everyone else is playing the big roles, you never gonna get there
After all, it's on yourself
Who are "you." You are t the same you that could be enthralled for hours by jingling keys, the same you that didn't know how to use a computer, and so on. "You" is a fluid concept. Every day you change, and every moment is your chance to be a better "you." If your love relies only on giving, someday you will run out of things to give. Lasting and real love relies on someone else enjoying who you are and you enjoying them back, and growing and changing together so in a yet "you" both like the "you" they have changed into with time. Love is a partnership, not one person trying to "save" another.
The saving kind of love
Never ends up good
Never
You may be thinking ''love is love'' ''you don't know us'' ''we are different'' and all sorts of bs
But you can't love when you don't even love yourself
It won't work out
In my case, it is not a saving kind of love. She needs no saving. She is happily married with a family and I couldn't be happier for her. It's kinda hard to explain. I fell in love with her years ago but I know I'm not the right guy for her so I am glad she is where she is at. He's a good dude so she belongs with him.
Of course I wish I could love someone who would reciprocate it back to me in the same way but that just doesn't seem to be in the cards. That may change in the future but being middle aged makes it that much harder, that along with a plethora of personal issues. Not trying to make excuses, I just know my limitations and accept them. I'm ok with who I am.
And if you truly loved her, then you would be happy she was happy.
If you love someone, you help them not do everything for them. Cause when you do, they'll think it's your job, your duty when it's actually a choice
But they don't appreciate that choice of your
There is a saying that goes ''“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
It is also true that most people are special but there are some of us that are nameless, faceless, replaceable, and forgettable. I'm not feeling sorry for myself, I accept my role in this world. For people like me, there is no happy ending but what I can do is try to help someone else be just a bit happier, maybe give one more smile in their life. That is what makes me happy.
The truth is none of us matter at all, we're all on a freaking flying ball in the endless universe
But it's your life, you're the main character of your very life, you're what matters the most
Your value is on you and seeing if you're worthy of happiness is on you
If you keep telling yourself ''it's not happening'' that you're just a little shadow in this life while everyone else is playing the big roles, you never gonna get there
After all, it's on yourself
Never ends up good
Never
You may be thinking ''love is love'' ''you don't know us'' ''we are different'' and all sorts of bs
But you can't love when you don't even love yourself
It won't work out
Of course I wish I could love someone who would reciprocate it back to me in the same way but that just doesn't seem to be in the cards. That may change in the future but being middle aged makes it that much harder, that along with a plethora of personal issues. Not trying to make excuses, I just know my limitations and accept them. I'm ok with who I am.