That may not have been her reason at all, especially given her advice was SMART. It incredibly unwise to go to a guys house when you've never actually met them before. Unfortunately it could very well be a case of her not heeding her own advice because she was blinded by lust/loneliness/excitement, any number of things. Did you remind her what she told you?

Jealousy is like mold.
You're all fine and good but then there is a little sunlight and moist and suddenly, you're laying on a furry mess that makes you and everyone around you miserable.
Human are social animals (like guinea pigs), we need others to live (even lots of you deny that) or we get lonely and depressed.
But in another hand, we are very competitive. Even when we are working in group, we still want to have a little better than the rest. It comforts out ego and security I suppose.
Those two wouldn't be such a problem if we weren't so lazy. We want to have it better but we don't want to do better. So we wish for the rest to do worse.
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What can you do about it? You may ask
Nothing.
There is literally nothing you can do about people's jealousy. It's within themselves, it consumes their heart and keeps them up at night.
Be careful, it spreads

Thanks, yeah I can feel myself starting to get jealous. Also I haven’t reminded her of her hypocrisy. Should I?

At this point, it seems like doing so would simply be looking for an arguement, but maybe next time she tries to dissuade your actions you could politely tell her to keep her nose out of your business.

I think, if she's a real friend and not just a roommate, you should bring it up. Tell her how you feel. It's much better to communicate and get it out than just bottle it up. That way you will also get your answer as to what kind of friend she really is based on her response. I think it is really important to remember that a lot of people are great at giving advice, but too often fail to take their own. That doesn't mean they were trying to sabotage you, just that they are better at helping others than themselves. Because, again, SHE WAS RIGHT. Do not go to strangers homes just because you met on an app. Meet up in a public place PLEASE, for your own safety.

I don't think that was her reasoning but I would definitely call her out on it.

You should cut off their hands.

Yeah I think I’ll do that

Goooood now send them to me... For research purposes of course.

Okay well I’ll do it when she’s asleep so there isn’t a struggle.

Hey dash. Sorry to hear your troubles. Here are my thoughts for you: No matter how old you get or where you go, there will always be people who think that anytime someone else does well or is happy, it somehow takes away from them or makes them worse off. Add in miserable people who want to make others situations worse and yeah- you’ll have plenty of saboteurs in life. It’s more true the younger you are, but immaturity knows no age limit. She gave you good advice. For a first meeting with a guy, especially one you don’t know or don’t have the same circles and people to vouch for them- a public meetin is best. For all we know she saved you from being in the news. Melodramatic yes- people ride motorcycles and have a few beers and drive, or do all kinds of things that potentially can go badly everyday, and by and large most of them make it to tomorrow. Most. The ones that don’t are the ones who can’t look back on how lucky they were. So who knows? But we have established you were smart...

.. to follow her advice. Now- the hypocracy. She gave you her opinion. She didn’t think you should take the risk. She was willing to. I’ve done STUPID things. DANGEROUS things. It’s a looong list and you’d think I was full of shit if I listed many of them, and many more I won’t say on the internet or via text. Just believe that I’ve done just about every dangerous thing you can walk away from alive, but likely shouldn’t be able to. At the time and now I would tell most anyone don’t do most of them. It’s not worth it, and I’ve seen enough people get hurt, even a few die doing things I’ve done. It was their life though. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way, and sometimes the hard way doesn’t leave us more than a few terrifying seconds to learn a lesson too late to do any good. So maybe she was salty, or maybe she doesn’t follow her own good advice and while you decided whatever good could come from your meeting wasn’t worth the risk, and she decided to roll the dice with her life....

... if you’re pretty sure it was malicious- I don’t know that I’d confront her. I’d ask if there was a point. You know her better than us, and you know your relationship better. A GOOD friend I would confront. It’s worth the investment and that relationship is likely to last long enough that it’s betyer to correct a problem- and strong enough to survive confrontation. An “associate,” maybe not. I’d consider it a free lesson on their character and just how deep our relationship and trust can go. But if you confront her and she denies it- what then? You can’t prove her intentions- and in the end she only gave her opinion, the decision was still yours. You could have easily have told her “well... I think I want to go. Can you text me to make sure I’m alright and check on me with find a friend?” And so on. But based on what you were feeling and what she said you decided it wasn’t worth it. She gave an opinion and you agreed. I’m glad that both of you came away sage though....

... but yeah. Mainly I’d say based on your personalities and other factors- I’d ask myself what I hoped to gain from a conversation, and how likely I thought I was to achieve that goal. Then I’d weigh the benefits of a “successful” dialog against the risks of it went badly (such as having to live together after etc.) and weight all the motivating factors- and that’s would be my criteria for if I’d bother bringing it up or how. There’s also “soft” ways to bring it up- like mentioning it from a perspective of being concerned for her safety having gone to some guys house, and then letting her walk it in to where the conversation needs to go without putting her on the defense- by coming from a caring place and not a hurt place. Best of luck whatever you decide- I know it’s hard walking away from a potential romance because the head overrules the heart. Be proud you were strong enough to think with the upstairs brain. Some people aren’t- like maybe your friend.

Thanks guest!