Yes. Focus on you. Part of the bad things that relationships cause is a sense of dependency. Especially when we fall in love. We feel we need that person to be happy. That's why it's so hard to get over a break up. Instead, look at this as a chance to grow yourself. Find your hobbies and engage in them, volunteer to make yourself seem important to you, show yourself your worth. And work on your self esteem. Yes you'll miss them, but you won't feel that empty piece, because it was filled with the wrong thing before, and you'll be actively refilling it with a healthier alternative

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Good for you! It may take time, but that's how it will happen. Especially of there are kids in the picture, you want to be really thoughtful into the type of person you may eventually bring in. Also, this is an example of the fact that even adults go through the same kinds of base issues younger people do (not that you're old or anything, or that op is super young). Just if you invest time in yourself, you'll be able to find someone who really fits with you, while if you spend time investing in the wrong types of people the opposite is more likely