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parisqeen · 7 years ago
It's easy to retort with the same tactics as the bullies themselves or go straight to violence but then you're just mirroring what they're doing to you and eventually you don't even know why you're fighting anymore. Stay strong, we're here to help you and just know that you're the better person, step into their shoes for a minute. Resist the anger and sadness that you may feel from this and instead just pity them. They're sad lost kids who don't know how to deal with their problems.
geluregis · 7 years ago
Not all bullies are deserving of mercy, but they do not deserve violence either. Expose them as they truly are. Surely you don't live so deep in the south that there's no one else that also hates her?
parisqeen · 7 years ago
Yeah you're right. Some bullies are just that, bullies. @geluregis has the right idea, keep your friends close, the more people around you the more likely she is to stay away because they'll protect you. Sometimes just laughing at them is best, treat them as a joke, if you show that you're hurt they're in power so brush them off, simply laugh at anything they say. They'll either be confused or feel shitty for even trying
rosebud · 7 years ago
The thing is that they're all really, really stupid.
Like I know, I talk about shit that happens in my school often. But we were doing a pretend voter registration sheet in one of our classes and this girl legit didn't know her house number.
She knew the street, the postal code, the neighborhood, and the state, but she never thought to see the number that her house is. The teacher had to pull it up on his computer for her.
I want to point this out to her, but I feel like that just sinks me to her level. What do?
rosebud · 7 years ago
I have no idea who else dislikes her. She dislikes a lot of my friends because they're all the weird, quirky type like me.
parisqeen · 7 years ago
Yeah don't point it out. Idiots are unfortunately one of the worst bullies cause they just don't get shit. I would honestly just try laughing at any insults she makes, smiling at her when she comments on something, just give her that look like "seriously?". Hopefully she'll feel uncomfortable or stupid. Be resilient though, don't let her stupidity get to you
tarotnathers13th · 7 years ago
As hard as it sounds, ignore her. She's trying to get a rise out of you, and it'll get harder the longer you ignore her, but if you show that you don't care about what she says and that it doesn't affect you negatively, she'll either expose herself as a really horrible person, or give up. Although, don't put up with any petty shit she tries to throw your way.
rosebud · 7 years ago
Thanks guys. I'll see how this goes today.
parisqeen · 7 years ago
Good luck :)
chu · 7 years ago
Violence solves every problem. It usually isn't the best way but it will always work in at least the short term.
deleted · 7 years ago
Exactly
fruit_salad · 7 years ago
Banana, I consider us mutuals. I haven't dealt with direct bullying, but I have dealt with a fucktton of drama. You learn who your friends really are. It isn't the best idea, but I completely isolated myself from everyone except my close friends.
unicycle · 7 years ago
I had a very similar problem with a girl who decided that insulting me every chance she got was her life's work. But every time she said something to me I just gave her the biggest, brightest smile and went on my merry way. At first it fueled her and she said I was dim, barmy, etc but after less than a week of receiving no satisfying reaction from me she stopped completely. I agree with everyone else that said trying to get her back is fruitless; watching someone slowly go insane as they can't figure out how to get at you is one of life's most rewarding experiences.
rosebud · 7 years ago
I saw the psychologist again and she basically just told me to watch her to see what else she does.
Basically, whatever she says can and will be used against her.
Luckily she didn't say anything else during that class, but still.
parisqeen · 7 years ago
Nice, just mess with her mind. I completely agree with @unicycle on this one.
Well if she's slowly stopping then whatever you're doing must be working so good on you, keep it up.
rosebud · 7 years ago
I'm not doing anything though. I haven't hanged.
rosebud · 7 years ago
changed*
parisqeen · 7 years ago
Then hopefully she's just getting bored, if you retaliated I bet it would be a lot worse by now.
rosebud · 7 years ago
Fair enough..
tarotnathers13th · 7 years ago
Action prompts reaction, inaction leaves nothing to happen. Trolls only continue when someone's taken the bait and gone under the bridge.