rosebud · 7 years ago
I get what you're saying, kinda.
Even though I only have one sister and one brother, more often than not when I go out with extended family, it's my mom, my sister, my two aunts and my grandma.
It's like spending a Saturday walking on eggshells.
I don't think you hate women, you just are in a funk due to your environment. You're not a misogynist.
deleted · 7 years ago
Then what do I do?
I just want a male role model in my life who isn't some bigwig celebrity, or an arsehole.
deleted · 7 years ago
I'll be it
thedarkknightess · 7 years ago
During my last year in high school there were only women in my class. It was a train wreck and it made me loathe my own gender. So you see it's often the environment that influences you. Women are not that difficult to get along with, but when they are together competition strikes and whoever gets caught in the middle of that will get a bit hurt. Try to be nice to them, though, because us women can be very good friends and life models, too. I don't know about your family situation, so excuse me if I make a faux pas here... Is there a male relative you can talk to? Your father, for instance? Do you have any brothers? A cousin your age maybe? An uncle? Grandpas are great, don't underestimate them. Any teacher you admire? I would also recommend you to speak with a female you trust... I'm sure they will be glad to help you! And how about your friends, have you tried to open up with them? Don't worry, sero, it'll be fine, just keep on trying.
salumar · 7 years ago
Have a one night stand each time you move, it'll be great.
deleted · 7 years ago
Father left me, we no longer speak with extended family, but teacher thing could work.
I do also have exclusively male friends, so I could try that.
communistcorrector · 7 years ago
How about great people from your culture? There must be some person you could look up to. (Thanks daddy Stalin)
deleted · 7 years ago
Mmm. Maybe I could look at some famous black people.
deleted · 7 years ago
Dude.... Sam Jackson
communistcorrector · 7 years ago
Morgan Freeman is one of my favorite people ever (not even kidding he's fucking baller).
communistcorrector · 7 years ago
Ice cube and Kevin hart are awesome as well. But if you want important people, look up to Nelson Mandela
deleted · 7 years ago
Alright. I'll look up Sam Jackson, see if I like him.
arabesque · 7 years ago
Daveed Diggs is real cool
silvermyth · 7 years ago
I don't like people in general, they're both petty and emotional.
parisqeen · 7 years ago
You'll be fine sero, It'd probably just the fact you're around them so often. It's normal to get sick and even hate things or people you're around too much. Getting a role model that's maybe a teacher or a dude like Sam Jackson is good. Maybe ask some of the woman in your life if you can get to know their guy friends. You're okay though, don't over think it too much.
thedarkknightess · 7 years ago
I'll list a few people here, maybe if you look them up they could inspire you.
- Ben Carson, my idol, neurosurgeon (he wrote books and "Gifted hands" is the movie)
- Martin Luther King Jr. (and his followers)
- Thurgood Marshall (first black Justice of the US Supreme Court)
- I can't make up my mind on Malcolm X (too violent, but he was sharp)
- Herman Boone, former football coach ("Remember the Titans" is the movie)
- Lesra Martin, fascinating (he helped Rubin Carter, the movie - "The Hurricane" - is a bit fictionalized, but it's good)
- Jesse Owens, amazing
- Many basketball players have rough backstories (Serge Ibaka, Thomas Robinson, Caron Butler, Leon Powe, etc...)
- Michael Oher, touching ("The Blind Side", book and movie).
I feel narrow-minded listing only black men, I really hope you can look up to black women (Maya Angelou, Nina Simone, Mae Jemison!) and white people, too.