High five! That's really awesome!

Basically the difference between being an asshole, and trying to help the person.

There's a difference between shaming and constructive criticism/knowledgable advice. Shaming is telling someone something like, "Omg you're soo fat you'll never have a boyfriend, fat people are nasty" and then there, "Hey, I'm really concerned with your health, and I'm willing to help you if you'd like."

Thank you very much, I feel like I should just address this problem head on.