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1. Maybe you are too picky in the absolute sense.
2. Maybe you are too picky based on what YOUR attractiveness/niceness/desirability level would warrant.

I prefer to show them the results of their actions...the ramifications of them acting ditzy. It's the same as girls who hang onto a terrible boyfriend because they see that situation as more desirable than no BF. The problem is, while you have your terrible boyfriend or are acting stupid, some guy you might appreciate and who would appreciate the real you sees the stupid you (though it may be an act) or sees the fact that your taste is BFs is for a terrible one, and decides he's not interested. Or, he recognizes the stupid acting, and doesn't decide you're stupid but decides correctly that you're the type that believes that acting stupid is appealing (so, whatever baggage that entails...shallow, manipulative, needy...).