I just wanna say something because I do self harm but it's not because people say hateful things to me but it's my own mind that causes me pain. See I have anger issues I get angry at people easily but I get angry at my self too. I put lots of pressure on myself to be better but when I can't achieve what I wanted to, I turn on my self. I haven't harmed my self in a while but it's still there eating away at my mind when I get angry. I don't know why I'm sharing this. I guess I just wanted to say its not always other people that make people resort to harming them selfs, sometimes it's there own self that fuels the fire.
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I'm the same way, I am extremely hard on myself. I've tried to break my fingers because I couldn't play a drum fill properly. I almost see it as like a punishment for not doing something right.
You shouldn't harm yourself because nobody is perfect. The will always be someone who accepts you so theirs no need to feel worthless. Because you're not.
I want you all to know if you're struggling that you are loved. I pulled through this self harm (you would know this if you read the 2013 post with sponge bob) and I want all of you to as well. And for anyone who objects to this topic then they need to understand that everyone one has suffered and some have suffered more than others in many different ways. Stay strong loves. -Reyna
Self harm is often a passing phase. It is also often not associated with any underlying mental health issue. It is used as a "cry for help" usually and is most prevalent in teenage girls. When I first heard this in psychology at university it didn't surprise me; the people who used to self harm at my secondary school were the pretentious "emo" girls who thought they were deep, tortured souls, but really they just didn't have any discernable skills and wanted attention.
I will never understand this and I'm glad I don't. And don't even give me "I have reasons." Listen, I was bullied, I've failed tests, I've had body issues, I've had my heart shattered into a million pieces, I've had mental problems, I've had family problems, I've had days were I wanted to give up. But I never self-harmed in any way. That's accepting defeat. You can't let others win.
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What self-harm does is it gives a sort of rush of happiness, because physical pain is easier to deal with than mental pain. It's can also be a form of punishing yourself for not doing something right. Obviously it's not the best way to go about it, but just because it seems illogical doesn't mean that it isn't a problem.
It has been well-documented that it is indeed an attention-seeking mechanism that often is unrelated to any mental health issues. It makes them feel "deep" and "complex", but it is actually quite a simplistic tactic: "if i hurt myself, I will get attention. I know this because other girls who have self-harmed have recieved favourable attention and sympathy for it". Self-harm is actually quite uncommon in genuine mental illness and is not used as a diagnostic indicator of mental illness because of this.
Some people don't do it for attention, guest. Most try to hide it under sweaters and try to hide it from people. I think the ones crying for attention are the ones who post pics of them cutting themselves. There's no need to take pictures. Nobody can really help you on the internet. If you really need help tell someone, not just online, in person.
I've recently become enthralled with it.
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I have a small plastic Baggie of tacks and paper clips in my pencil case, and there's always bobby pins in my pockets now
I do it
For many reasons really but mostly because
I don't want to hurt anyone else
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People hate me
I have little to no friends
They all say rude
Vile
Horrible things
And it just
Instead of punching them
I cut myself
They don't get hurt and I get punished
It's a win win
What makes you think they are more valuable than you? What makes you think that you are more worthless than them? Who the fuck says that you are less valuable than them?
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We need more of you in the world and less of those horrible people.
Be strong,i'm like you. People say horrible things to me,even my family. Even my parents. They wish i was never born. Nobody ever loved me. And i don't know why. I swear i'm not a bad person,i'm kind,i care about people and their emotions,i always try to make them happy,but they don't care about me and everytime they just break my heart into million pieces. I think about killing myself a lot,but i never do that,and i never selfharm. Just be strong. You will find people who will love you. I promise you. Just stop selfharming,and always know that you're better than them for sure.
Thank you , from the bottom of my heart.
Also, if you don't understand why people self harm, be fucking grateful! You are fortunate enough to have a “normal" functioning mind that can deal with stress in “normal"/acceptable/healthy ways. Cutters are much less capable of such a feat...
This is so true. I've been self harming since I was 13(I'm 18 now) and I haven't gotten any better. My tattoo says "hush little baby don't you cry don't cut your arms don't say goodbye put down that razor put down that knife it may be hard but you'll get through tonight" I got it Latin. It's like a chant I say everyday. Long story short its hard but I'm choosing to fight.
Fuck you guest. Someone is sharing a story about how they're healing. I'd much rather hear a story like this than a story of someone who is not healing. Don't listen to them, brucewayneattack. You're amazing. Keep fighting, don't let anyone get in your way!
This is an add on, but I remember when I was being bullied by my classmates constantly to the point of tears. Ridiculed everyday, jumped, my things stolen. I never told anyone, but I was never able to get over it and after I graduated things didn't get better. Because after being bullied like that for so long I began to turn on myself and to wonder what was wrong with me. One day I got the courage to tell my Mom about what was going on. That I cried nearly everyday, was depressed, and had thoughts of suicide. She brushed me off and told me that it probably wasn't that serious since I wasn't cutting or physically harming myself. At the time, I assumed she was right and tried to ignore it, but later realized that it was serious and for her to tell me I needed to be cutting myself to prove I felt this deep sadness and helplessness was wrong. What I'm trying to say is that while even the smallest cut could hold immeasurable amounts of sadness, the skin without scars can have just as m
I would say it has more because self-harm is usually something that teenage girls do to prove that they are deep and angsty. Truly depressed people don't self-harm (often) since they don't want other people to ask them how they are feeling, they don't want the attention. They want to isolate themselves from others and self-harming would be counterintuitive since it would increase the amount of attention they receive. Go to your doctor and get treated if you truly think you are ill. That is my advice.
I hate when people tell me, "I don't see any cuts, you're just fine." But having scars or not having scars, you can be depressed either way! I recommend you tell your doctor, or someone who would really understand.
I hate that as well, its so stupid. And I have scars, but they're not visible at first glance!! On my thighs... so nobody could tell. I'm a bit more open about it now, but I didn't tell anyone for about six months. It's horrible but... I love it. It's so helpful to me.
I know this is an old post , but I feel my story is relivant. I do have an account on here, but I'm posting as a guest because there are people who know me on here. I went through severe depression when I was fairly young, I was bullied both at school and online by some girls who were supposedly my best friends. Now, let me make this clear, I never hurt myself on purpose. Looking back on that time in my life I realize that although I never actually took a blade to my skin, I would do things that I knew would probably hurt, things I wouldn't normally do. Things like playing bloody knuckles or quarters with the guys, scrub my legs just a little bit too hard in the shower .. Things like that. I don't consider this as having self harmed, but I certainly didn't mind the pain. I do agree that some people hurt themselves for attention, but not were one does. I have known many people who seemed fine , guys and girls, who have later confided in me. I hate how people assume it's all ...cont...
For attention, with some people each they do or have done it for attention, but for some they really don't. And saying that because they are talking about it online means that it's for attention is absolute bulls**t. People talk about it online because it is a whole lot easier to talk to people who don't know you, who are less likely to judge you about such extreme problems. That being said, anyone who does self harm know that I love you, and that I want you to have the strength to stop. If you don't hear it from anyone else today know that it wish you nothing but the best, and hope whatever is causing you so much pain ends soon. And please please know that it will get better, don't give up.
My mother is a social worker, and I hear about about these kind of cases where children self harm everyday, it's really sad :( don't be mean to people , your words can do a lot of things emotionally
My mother is too, and I hear her tell these awful stories (She tells them like un-known, and also she asks them if she can put them in her presentations.) And It makes me sick to my stomach these things happen. Any kind of emotional hurt, or violence. A eighteen year old was beaten to death where I live, by an un-known man, that he didn't know. Why though?
Ahhh. Yeh. Ur talking to a person who has done this themself. People don't need to announce they cut themselves, and if they do, then clearly they are seeking attention they aren't getting. So no. This is not serious. Get the fuck over it people
I totally agree with you lani. When I did psychology at university, I was told that many of the teenage girls that are referred for psychiatric treatment due to self-harm are filtered out by the system because it isn't classed as a proper mental health issue, it is simply an attention seeking mechanism. A lot of people don't want to hear this but it is unfortunately true. So when female, teenage self-harmers have an inital assessment, they are assessed for any underlying mental illness and if non-existent they are discharged back to their GP since "treating" them is a massive waste of resources compared to treating proper mental health issues. Self-harm is often a passing phase that resolves itself. I wish people who keep preaching about how serious self-harm is would stop, and educated themselves.
It's true that most teenage girls that self harm just want attention. I've known people that harmed them selfs then tell every one. But there are people who have issues and can't find another way to deal with it. As I said in my first comment I do self harm but I don't like telling my friends because they get all concerned and then try to help me, when all honesty I just want it to be my own secret. So yes there are attention seekers but there are also people who self harm and keep it to them selfs. Usually the non attention seekers are people that smile the most because they want to hide the fact that they have done something that many people view as wrong.
Like
I have a small plastic Baggie of tacks and paper clips in my pencil case, and there's always bobby pins in my pockets now
I do it
For many reasons really but mostly because
I don't want to hurt anyone else
Like
People hate me
I have little to no friends
They all say rude
Vile
Horrible things
And it just
Instead of punching them
I cut myself
They don't get hurt and I get punished
It's a win win
Also, if you don't understand why people self harm, be fucking grateful! You are fortunate enough to have a “normal" functioning mind that can deal with stress in “normal"/acceptable/healthy ways. Cutters are much less capable of such a feat...