I couldn't even put this into words when my mother asked me why I didn't have more than one friend. :/ I like being an introvert, though it does get sorta annoying sometimes when I accidentally turn a conversation awkward and realize I should just stop trying to communicate.
Well, there's some truth in what guest is saying, but it doesn't have anything to do with running out of things to say. A pause in the conversation doesn't have to be awkward, and friends can walk together without saying a thing to each other. Just don't think about it as an awkward silence.
I've gained a lot of friends (ten times as much, in fact) since senior high started last year, and though it's still really hard for me to be with friends without talking to them, I try not to think about it as an awkward silence, and things are a lot better than they were in junior high.
Just don't think too much about awkwardness. Think inistead about how you'd feel if the other person was doing what you're doing. If you wouldn't feel awkward, chances are the other person wouldn't feel awkward either.
I have things preplanned out in my head, one for every circumstance. They sound alright in my head, then I fumble getting my words out and end up sounding like an idiot.
Can you imagine what would happen if all of us funsubbers got together somewhere? Yeah, online we talk and have friends and whatever, but IRL, I have this gut feeling that we would all just stand around...awkwardly trying to converse...and probably crying...
I'd purposely go around talking about periodsubstance and other things to make things even more awkward for my own amusement. Also, it helps to find out who the interesting people are.
I was so happy that this guy i kinda like started a chat with me on FB, about the party I'm having. And then we half way started talking about something else, but then I could'nt think of anymore to say and I was just sitting there like: say something, say fucking anything so we can talk more!
But he did'nt. And then I akwardly told him about this dead mouse in the stable, and he just said LOL. So.. Yeah.. That happend..
If he started talking with you, and not the other way around, chances are he doesn't think you're being awkward. He might even believe he's the awkward one.
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Now, about tomorrow. That mouse is a great ice-breaker. Think about what you can say about it, and just mention it when he arrives at the party. It might not seem like it (it's hard to notice them sometimes), but the mouse is an inside-joke between the two of you, and however stupid it might seem it's still an inside-joke. I have this thing with a friend of mine, that started in a maths class. It's just so incredibly stupid (infinity times three), but we laugh every single time someone even vaguely hints at it. This mouse, though maybe not associated with as much fun as our nerdy humour, it's still something you have in common, and that's really important when trying to gain new friends. Take it from me, the guy who went from having three friends in junior high to more than thirty good friends in senior high.
He starts talking to me! Omg, omg! I feel like a little girl with a crush. This is not good!
The mouse thing was not that.. uhm.. I don't think he cared or remembered at all.
But he did say that he was beeing wierd and hyper today when we were chatting. So, yeah..
I really wanna tell my friend, but I'm not sure about this myself, and now I'm telling the interweb. It's wierd how things work out, haha!
I've gained a lot of friends (ten times as much, in fact) since senior high started last year, and though it's still really hard for me to be with friends without talking to them, I try not to think about it as an awkward silence, and things are a lot better than they were in junior high.
Just don't think too much about awkwardness. Think inistead about how you'd feel if the other person was doing what you're doing. If you wouldn't feel awkward, chances are the other person wouldn't feel awkward either.
But he did'nt. And then I akwardly told him about this dead mouse in the stable, and he just said LOL. So.. Yeah.. That happend..
.
Now, about tomorrow. That mouse is a great ice-breaker. Think about what you can say about it, and just mention it when he arrives at the party. It might not seem like it (it's hard to notice them sometimes), but the mouse is an inside-joke between the two of you, and however stupid it might seem it's still an inside-joke. I have this thing with a friend of mine, that started in a maths class. It's just so incredibly stupid (infinity times three), but we laugh every single time someone even vaguely hints at it. This mouse, though maybe not associated with as much fun as our nerdy humour, it's still something you have in common, and that's really important when trying to gain new friends. Take it from me, the guy who went from having three friends in junior high to more than thirty good friends in senior high.
The mouse thing was not that.. uhm.. I don't think he cared or remembered at all.
But he did say that he was beeing wierd and hyper today when we were chatting. So, yeah..
I really wanna tell my friend, but I'm not sure about this myself, and now I'm telling the interweb. It's wierd how things work out, haha!