What does he mean "was beautiful"? Why should his opinion change based on something that happened in the past, and isn't really relevant anymore? If she was born with the mindset of a women and wanted her body to match her mind, why would living with that knowledge be difficult?
I mean I see an issue that she never told him in twenty years of marriage. He didn't have a good reaction to it, but he should have known before he got married.
Why does it matter, though? Obviously, if it took him that long to find out, it never caused an issue. Many of us want to let go completely of our past and don't want to be reminded of ever having lived in a body or as a person what wasn't who we are.
Well she didn't think it mattered, but if it didn't matter, she could have just randomly told him one day knowing he would accept it. Also, she had to end up forging documents and faking her
period according to what I read to keep him from finding out. He too was devastated. I don't think he was right to feel that way, but I mean it was part of her life, and I want to know the life of who I marry throughly.
I'm sorry, but I don't think you understand. It's a scary thing to come out as transgender to anyone, especially when they care about that person, for fear of losing them. She's a woman. That she was born XY shouldn't be an issue, and as a transgender person myself, I know that it's often painful to be reminded that you were born in a body that doesn't match your mind. I haven't transitioned, but when I do, I never want to make mention that I was ever female ever again. I don't blame her at. all. for not telling him. It's probably not something that she even wants to remember. She wouldn't want to risk losing him, and she wouldn't want to be seen as a man instead of being seen as she truly is- a woman.
I have some trans friends and I definitely understand it's a struggle. I can't really know what it's like, but I just kind of felt bad for the guy for knowing that he had to find out from rumors 20 years after marrying her. I just think that you should trust the person you marry with anything, no matter how much you want to bury it, because for a marriage to work out, the love should be unconditional and honest. She shouldn't be with someone who doesn't accept her past! This just blew up in both their faces and is really sad.
Dude if i fed you the best food in the world, then told you that it was the meat of a human child, it wouldn't matter because you didnt notice it while you ate it, right?
period according to what I read to keep him from finding out. He too was devastated. I don't think he was right to feel that way, but I mean it was part of her life, and I want to know the life of who I marry throughly.