Mental illnesses aren't romantic

Don't freak out on me but I don't believe that people "change" like we say they do lots of times in romantic books and movies (or maybe that badboy your female friend is dating, lots of us have THAT friend) I think that it is most commonly what we think the explanation is when we didn't (or don't) really know the person. I don't think mental dksorders or self esteem isues are romantic but I think it is a sweet act of friendship or romance when we can help them through it because we love them not act as if that us what defines them is what means they are special or "makes them beautiful" (yes, I hate one derection too, sue me.)

That's almost exactly what I'm saying I just didn't know how to complete the thought. Our human nature makes us want to help people and we twist their apparent need for help into an attractive feature so we can get closer to them and take care of them.

I have ADHD