So sick of this stupid friendzone myth. Insulting to women because it suggests they have no say in the matter and need to go out with any guy who acts a little bit nice to her, insulting to men because it suggests that all they're out for is a relationship because clearly men can't possibly 'just be friends' with a girl.
But isn't that suggesting there's a friendzone? And I can guarantee, as a straight female, that I definitely am not sexually attracted to some of my guy friends in any way shape or form.
We all have different points of view Jillaroo don't be so damn rude about it. I have been friendzoned before but let me finish i consider it friendzone because at one point there was a semi romantic aspect to "our" friendship and she broke it off without giving me any sense of closure. Therefore 3 months later when she wanted to be "friends" again i accepted her back into my life hoping maybe she wanted to be with me. 3 years later down the line endless heart ache and pain not even sure why I put up with all of it i stopped talking to her for good and it was for the better the supposed friend zone isn't always as simple as you would think jillaroo but i do see your point.
Mate I was just asking a question. Questioning isn't being rude. Seriously, literally nowhere in my response up there did I say the opinion was wrong/stupid etc, I just asked a simple question for more information and then offered a piece of information from my own experience. That's how conversations work, no?
Anyway, sounds to me like she just didn't want a relationship, which is fine, but just wanted a friendship, which is also fine. If you were just wanting a relationship, maybe you should have just explained that to her. I'm sorry it caused you heartache, and wish I worked out for you, but she has every right to just want to be friends.
Friendzone is a myth, relationships are complicated, and sometimes, women just don't want to go out with a certain man, and that should be enough, without having to label the woman with something negative. That was what my original point was.
Yes, I do regularly. Perhaps you don't, which is fine, that might just be the way you work, but I have plenty of friends I'm happy to just be around and email and talk to about their day, or my day, or their opinion about a random thing. And they message me for the same.
Anyway, sounds to me like she just didn't want a relationship, which is fine, but just wanted a friendship, which is also fine. If you were just wanting a relationship, maybe you should have just explained that to her. I'm sorry it caused you heartache, and wish I worked out for you, but she has every right to just want to be friends.
Friendzone is a myth, relationships are complicated, and sometimes, women just don't want to go out with a certain man, and that should be enough, without having to label the woman with something negative. That was what my original point was.