He'd be right if she had dressed up, stripped down, gotten him all hot and bothered, then turned him down stating she only wanted to be held. But she didn't. She didn't want sex, and when he didn't like that, she stated that being taken care of on an emotional level is important to her. And that if he refuses to make her emotional needs a priority, she can refuse to make his physical needs a priority.
He acted pretty shitty and childish towards someone he's supposed to care about.
Sex is between two people. Not one person using the other or one person putting themselves above the other. If sex is the most important thing to you, and you want your partner to fulfill that need for you, you better make sure that you're fulfilling their needs as well. For many, sex is very closely tied to their emotions. It isn't just a physical act. And if they don't feel taken care of emotionally, becoming aroused isn't going to happen, and sex leads to feelings of being used rather then pleasure.
It's sad how many people think the girlfriend deserved all this for saying no. I wonder what people's reaction would be to a story where a guy told a girl no to a pricey pair of shoes based off of financial needs being more important. Then she puts on skimpy lingerie, cooks a gourmet dinner, and buys the new game he's been wanting. He gets home, see's all being offered to him, then when he goes for any of it, is told "no, my need for having you want me is more important then you being satisfied."
It's an asshole move, equivalent to throwing a tantrum while yelling "how dare you say no to me!"
Look, if youre just her servile 'free shit' machine then man up and dump her ass. From what I see in the text she's just buying random shit and using you, and guess what? That's not a healthy relationship. Dating doesn't equal free shit so if you're being used that way then pull the fuck out before its too late.
I agree with the guy...and I'm a girl. Couldn't the girl have paid for her own shit instead of making her boyfriend have to pay for all that expensive shit? What a spoiled bitch
This is not the same thing as being at the mall, and expecting your partner to step up and foot the bill once you get to the cash register. Etiquette dictates that the one who invites/asks out pays. When my ex and I were dating, I payed for more then half the dates, and not just my half of the meal. Because I asked him out and chose what we would be doing, I assumed the financial obligation. Also, im guessing he isn't solely paying. It says in the text "she couldn't decide which one so I said WE could buy them all." Your assuming only his money is tied up in this. From earlier in the text, we know they live together. So there's a good chance they have a shared bank account.
These are two adults who live together and are financially intertwined. He took her out. He told her to choose more and pick out more. People In relationships buy each other gifts. If someone asks you to pick something nice out for yourself, then says "no, I just wanted to act like I'm nice." They're an asshole.
And I'm a girl too. Are there who women who expect men to pay for everything and take advantage of them? Absolutely. But that is not what is going on in the story above.
This is a story if a man who expects his girlfriend to put out whenever he wants. And when she says "no, I don't want sex" (something every human has a right to say), he plans a very hurtful and elaborate way to get back at her that far exceeds any disappointment she might have inflicted on him. The time and energy put into his ruse far outweighed what she was asking for, to be held and assured that she was important to him for who she was. Not just for sex.
He acted pretty shitty and childish towards someone he's supposed to care about.
Sex is between two people. Not one person using the other or one person putting themselves above the other. If sex is the most important thing to you, and you want your partner to fulfill that need for you, you better make sure that you're fulfilling their needs as well. For many, sex is very closely tied to their emotions. It isn't just a physical act. And if they don't feel taken care of emotionally, becoming aroused isn't going to happen, and sex leads to feelings of being used rather then pleasure.
It's an asshole move, equivalent to throwing a tantrum while yelling "how dare you say no to me!"
These are two adults who live together and are financially intertwined. He took her out. He told her to choose more and pick out more. People In relationships buy each other gifts. If someone asks you to pick something nice out for yourself, then says "no, I just wanted to act like I'm nice." They're an asshole.
This is a story if a man who expects his girlfriend to put out whenever he wants. And when she says "no, I don't want sex" (something every human has a right to say), he plans a very hurtful and elaborate way to get back at her that far exceeds any disappointment she might have inflicted on him. The time and energy put into his ruse far outweighed what she was asking for, to be held and assured that she was important to him for who she was. Not just for sex.