I'm curious to why you think suicide is stupid. May I ask your reasoning behind why you think so?
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For starter suicide is such a wimpy way to go. "Oh, no! Life's so hard. I want to end it!" *scoff* If all of the people who had a hard life did suicide then, half of the world would be dead. Find a reason to live! Whether it's religious, secular, or food-related.
@nande, all these things you say we need are right. But just imagine how hard that is. The hardest one of all I think it's getting the support from the family and friends. Most depressed people do a good job hiding it, most smile so bright, they wouldn't understand.
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But suicide is no answer. If you don't care about yourself then care about the people who love/need you. Even if you are lonely, there's no valid reason to die. That's just means you're letting misery/self-hate win and having one less good person in the world.
The thing is, saying suicide is stupid is classifying everyone that has ever done it or thought about it under one roof, and calling them all stupid, when each and every one of those people has a different reason and story. You don't know their reasoning for taking their life so don't speak ill about them, it will most likely push them further towards the edge. I've come close to committing a few times, but never went through with it because I knew it would hurt a lot of people I'm close to. Whenever I hear anyone say suicide is wimpy and a pathetic way to go, I ask you to stand in their shoes, and see how long you can hold off from committing suicide. Think before you speak.
What if you don't do it for attention? What if you do it because you can't find your way out? What if you've tried therapy, support from your family and friends, you tried changing your lifestyle but you can't and you want to use pills but how the hell can you use pills when your disease isn't cureable by pills? My friend was anorexic. This was her only option. I love her and I miss her, but it was her choice. It took me a while, but I respect that now. I respect that she chose this way, because after all her therapy, after all her trying to "change her lifestyle" and "just get better" she couldn't.
@nande12 the thing is it sounds so simple but it's not. I've struggled with severe depression and suicidal thoughts for two years on and off but over the last few months it got a lot worse and I nearly did do it. Nobody knew because everyone says ask for help but it's not that easy, you don't want people to think of you as attention seeking or not believe you so you keep it a secret and it's amazing what long sleeves and a smile can do, but one day my friend saw the cuts on my arms and she confronted me, she then told adults and I have been going to therapy ever since. I tried pills and all they did was make me want to kill myself more, the therapy sessions are so hard for a shy, introverted person who has always liked just blending into the background and not talking about feelings or themself much. But I try, I really do, I go to therapy, I try and be honest and I try to get out of bed and do things but I have no motivation, no energy, i don't enjoy anything I used to. Don't judge.
I hate when people say that! Like, they don't get the magnitude of it!
A life ends. Because we feel we can't even say what's wrong.
Think about you, about going a life, working hard, getting married, having a kid. Rising that kid. What if he suddenly parts. The life is broken.
Or think about a friend of yours, if it happens, they won't ever get to have their dream job. Find a person or find a mission. It all just stops, because no one listened.
Well I also believe that people should Learn that if you're unique people are gonna judge just keep your head up if people see you're better than them at something they're gonna try to push you down you gotta learn to get back up
Today I was on twitch and some guy said that he likes a certain video game and I said that I hadn't heard of it and he told me "kill yourself lol" and I told him that's not funny, that suicide is a very real and bad thing, and he tried to tell me, "no it's okay it's funny because I said 'lol'" and I told him that still doesn't make sense and then the whole chat started fighting against me, 8-1, calling me annoying and a baby and saying that I bitch about the smallest things.
Those who are suicidal are suicidal because they view themselves as burdens to others, and that they mean nothing. People have been committing suicide for thousands of years but self mutilation and suicide never made it into mainstream media until the 1990's with Princess Diana claiming to be a self mutilator. Much like anorexia and bulimia during the late 60's and early 70's people viewed them as outsiders and didn't understand how much of an issue it was. Until the supreme court notified it as a mental issue did any treatments and help start to come for those with eating disorders. The Supreme Court still hasn't notified the issue of self harm and suicide therefore no government funding and lack of resources make treatments expensive and limited.
People can't see things the way others can. Everyones perspective on everything is significantly different than others. Therefore weakness, to you, has a different meaning than weakness does to me.
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Suicide and self-harm are signs of weakness but its a weakness that can and should be helped rather than ignored. There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.
I don't think you understand @nande12 it actually takes a lot of courage and bravery to get help with depression cuz it's so hard to live with and usually people are embarrassed about having it because they think no ones gonna believe them or someone's gonna say it's not a real thing when it very truly is. Suicide is not a wimpy way to go. People actually have to work up the courage to commit suicide because it's such a complicated hard thing to do. Yes they care about the people in their lives but they think those people would be better off without them. Also as others have said it's very expensive to get help. So please get the facts before u say something mean that isn't true and could hurt someone. Sorry for being rude like this but it's the truth.
mladencom it's not like you wake up one day and think all right folks I wanna die today, there are weeks, months, years even of arguing with yourself and trying to get better and find another way out but some people can't. I've been there and the only reason I haven't killed myself yet is because I don't want anyone else to suffer because of me. They make to sound so simple, just ask for help but you have no idea how hard that is. You want to ask for help, you want it to be fixed but you can't because you don't have that sort if courage and you don't want anyone to worry or to be thought of as an attention whore or emo so you stick on a smile by day as you cry by night and one day you can't keep living that facade and the guilt and the pain get to much so you end it. It is the same as someone stealing some food so they don't starve, not necessarily the right thing to do but it feels like your only choice left and thank god you still feel like you have other choices.
Alright look I have been suicidal before and guess what? It is the most selfish thought I have ever thought. Just because it was hard, like really hard doesn't mean I can just give up life that didn't even have to be given to me. Although it may be 'my life' I'm not the only one affected by my life. It is selfish to kill yourself. If you've ever had someone commit suicide in your life you must know how it feels to realize 'oh yes their life did suck so they cut it short because they couldn't take I anymore and they didn't even ask me for help.' If you are suicidal and dont ask for any help, whether from friends or family or just ANYBODY, then yes it is selfish. But I will say if you do feel suicidal and you ask for some help even just a stick, then that is not selfish. That's realizing you have a problem and also realizing you can find a solution to your life, even if that solution starts with a stick, you're trying and you see that when giving up you will affect people in a negative
Way and you see life I gonna be hard so hard you feel like you can't handle it but hen someone kills them self, it's saying 'its not worth it to stick around to see what will happen. It's not worth seeing people I care about grow.' And yes it is selfish. Because your giving up on yourself and other people who YOU AFFECT NO MATTER WHAT yOU SAY. Killing yourself is a way out that is what people do when they 'feel' crappy. And ya wanna know how I know? I've been there! I've literally had the gun to my head and the pills in my hand ready to go but I isn't because there is more to my life then the crappy moments. Although I think that 'it gets better' crap is pretty lame in a sense it does it get different and you see how all this shit changes you for the better. It really does.
A life ends. Because we feel we can't even say what's wrong.
Think about you, about going a life, working hard, getting married, having a kid. Rising that kid. What if he suddenly parts. The life is broken.
Or think about a friend of yours, if it happens, they won't ever get to have their dream job. Find a person or find a mission. It all just stops, because no one listened.
People can't see things the way others can. Everyones perspective on everything is significantly different than others. Therefore weakness, to you, has a different meaning than weakness does to me.