This right here is good parenting.
Of course, the worse I ever got was my dad's hand (he didn't hold back) but even still, I am drug free, responsible, and still don't (willingly) hang out near Swaggots, Potheads, Thugs, or posers.
Thanks Dad, I will credit most of my successes to your style of parenting.
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I, however, was never physically assaulted as a form of parenting - yet I too am "drug free, responsible, and still don't (willingly) hang out near Swaggots, Potheads, Thugs, or posers."
Thanks mum and dad, I credit most my successes to your wonderful characters and morals.
I fail to see how this is good parenting. This kid will stop doing things just because he is scared of his parents, scared to get hit. If you explain your child why it's wrong what he did, he might make some mistakes but he will fully understand and never do that again.
I grew up near a lot of kids who only ever got a stern talking to. Some of them are alright, the rest are jerks who'll never amount to anything worthwhile.
Woah, Woah, Woah..... If you're disciplining the child right, a "spanking" wouldn't be "assult" it would be just that, DISCIPLINE... There's ALWAYS a very VERY fine line between discipline and abuse....
The same goes for my Dad. He would tell me that his grandfather would make him kneel for HOURS on bottle caps, or the rocks outside during the summer of the Texas heat when he was getting "disciplined" and that's why he taught HIS kids how to correctly discipline... And that's not even the worst he got... Now, I'm not saying that your mom went through a field of daisies OR through the 5th layer of Hell compared to my Dad because I'll never know, but the point is, that in THIS age, the patents that DO discipline their kids (not the ones who beat the sh*t out of them) do so in the form of spanking/ swatting/ whatever....
yes. there is a large difference in discipline and abuse. My parents did it right, there is nothing wrong with it. Im sorry all yall who think were wrong bc you just dont get it lol.
"I really think it’s crazy, that we hit our kids, it really is. Here’s the crazy thing about it, kids are the only people in the world, that you’re allowed to hit. Do you realize that? They’re the most vulnerable and they’re the most destroyed by being hit, but it’s totally okay to hit them. And they’re the only ones! If you hit a dog, they fucking will put you in jail for that shit. You can’t hit a person unless you can prove that they were trying to kill you, but a little tiny person with a head this big that trusts you implicitly? Fuck them, who gives a shit?" - Louie CK
It's discipline
Many dogs are so hard headed that there's no other way to effectively teach them right from wrong. Many children are the same way. And since when was it bad to hit a dog? It doesn't become a problem until people are throwing the dog against the wall, and beat it for hours on end. A really big problem in the day and age, is that many people don't want to see the difference between discipline and assault.
Children are not dogs. There are many serious studies on physical punishment of children and all the evidence points to it being detrimental. This ranging from a hard hit all the way to how you verbally reprimand. You can say ' I was hit and I'm fine' but there are hundreds of better ways to teach and discipline your child, this is a cop out. How do you feel if your boss or partner was to hit you when you did something wrong or weren't doing what they want? No matter how soft the hit, its still violence. Your teaching your child its ok to handle a difficult situation with physical agression. If its not Ok to hit a woman, a dog or your friend it should never be ok to hit a child........
Words can be harmful lol. there is just as much logic in what I have against your case. Personally, I and many many others, were raised like this: do something bad and mom and pops say its bad dont do it again. After, youdo it again and get grounded, and after that if you still want to break the rules you got swats. There are implications above that this would cause psychological harm. Nope. I am actually a graduate student studying developmental psychology and that only applies to parents who use it inconsistantly and too much. There are soo many other things that were doing to our kids to mess them up lol. Thinks that parents dont even realize that theyre doing. I was raised with that punishment and it worked great! My children will be done the same. End of story.
Oh and also, if you wanna try the whole Kids are the only people you can legally hit stuff, theyre also the only people that arent in prison or a psych ward that you can force to stay in a room against their will. GROUNDED!
Of course, the worse I ever got was my dad's hand (he didn't hold back) but even still, I am drug free, responsible, and still don't (willingly) hang out near Swaggots, Potheads, Thugs, or posers.
Thanks Dad, I will credit most of my successes to your style of parenting.
Thanks mum and dad, I credit most my successes to your wonderful characters and morals.
Many dogs are so hard headed that there's no other way to effectively teach them right from wrong. Many children are the same way. And since when was it bad to hit a dog? It doesn't become a problem until people are throwing the dog against the wall, and beat it for hours on end. A really big problem in the day and age, is that many people don't want to see the difference between discipline and assault.
So much of what you said is wrong on so many levels. I don't even know where to begin.