Nothing wrong with that! Sorry if some have made you (or whoever this post belongs to) about that. I wanna be a mom too, but because of my tastes and way of thinking, I'm pretty sure I'd be a single mom, which would probably cost me my family too... *Anyways* the fact that you wanna be a wife it's really helpful hahaha good luck with everything
@rogue... As I guy I read that as "I want to have a rich guy take care of me for the rest of my life and do nothing"... I doubt that's what you meant, but that's the first thing that popped into my mind (and I'm sure other men's)
Well, actually, I have a boyfriend already who is fine with me doing that as long as I'm happy. I haven't found what I want to do with my life while he has, so he understands that.
I'm going to take that time to find something I'm passionate about to want to do with my life.
So it isn't like I'm waiting for some rich guy to come and be a sugar daddy for me. I have someone who loves me and is willing to support me while I sort myself out.
Also, if you doubted that's what I meant then you wouldn't have had the idea to comment about it and say " as a guy " and " other men " when for all you know I couldn't have been looking for men. So don't worry about my life choices and path because you aren't going to be the guy anyway, as I didn't hint towards you nor any other man who wouldn't want to be with me or would say I'm a gold digger before knowing why I want to do something.
Like I said probably not what you meant, but that's how I read it... You could have easily said "I want to be a housewife until I figure out what I want to do with my life"... The post said "wife", you changed it to housewife, which has an negative or offensive connotation (see: websters) ...Here's the definition of housewife, you said you want this without the children part (which seems pretty simple) http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Housewife
I'm familiar with the term and it's definition. And specific life choices weren't part of the original post. The post was about being a wife and a mother so I took part by saying I'd like to be a housewife, and for all I know I could never find my passion and stay a housewife.
And you don't have to link me to a wikipedia article. If I want to be one I'm obviously not going to be ignorant on the subject matter, and it's not such a difficult concept to grasp.
And not everything has a negative meaning to everyone. Such as the N word. Some black people I know use it as a term of endearment of sorts while others consider is vulgar language that shouldn't be used.
Did you really just compare the N word (a word used to degrade an entire race of people for centuries) to being as equally offensive as the term "housewife"? So I'm guessing only other housewives can use it? Non-housewives shall henceforth refer to it as the "H" word!
She didn't compare the "N" word at all to the word housewives. All she was saying was that just because you or other people see the word "housewife" to be negative, doesn't mean that she or some other people do. I have never heard anyone day anything negative about a housewife, or even the word, so I don't know where you're getting your information. There's nothing wrong with being a housewife. It doesn't mean she wants some rich guy to buy her everything and do everything for her. Housewives cook, clean, take care of the house. It's not like they sit on their ass all day and stare at a wall.
Sometimes Offensive. (Dictionary)
"Sometimes."
On the tonyanash website, did you even read the comments of their personal views on the word? Tons of them admitted that maybe women over think the word or that they honestly don't find it offensive at all.
Yes I read it, and I even said it was a discussion. Generally when there a debate, at least some people feel it's offensive. There is also a HUGE distinction between stay at home mom and the H word. Stay at home moms are truly working, since it's the equivalent of daycare and this posted admitted they don't want to have kids. My original point was that the phrase "I want to be a housewife" has a connotation that you want someone to take care of you, after all bills still need to be paid by someone.
Okay, firstly I wasn't comparing the N word itself to being a housewife. I was comparing the use. Some people at school use it all the time like every other word, yet some of the close people I know say it shouldn't be used for the very reason you said. All I was saying was some people find it negative and others don't.
And yeah, it's not like I'm just going to laze about. I'm going to clean and cook and buy groceries. And without kids it'd just be me and my boyfriend to support. I never asked for a rich guy or someone who can buy me lavish gifts, I fell in love far before we even had that discussion.
I think you're getting your terms mixed up. I always learned that housewife was an equavilant to stay at home mom besides the former using the image of a woman in the 50s as the main thing people think about it.
What you're thinking of is a trophy wife. Those are the women who sit around all day and get cosmetic surgery when they begin to show their older age.
Oh, and lastly, just because some people on the internet have an OPINION as to whether a word is offensive or not doesn't mean it is. You have to ask the people who are what it is referring to.
So ask black people about the N word
Romani people about the G word
And because you've so " kindly " decided to censor yourself, ask housewives about the H word.
You don't get any leverage because you linked us to some posts about some people claiming that some other people think the word is offensive, when that is an opinion and not everyone hold it.
You seemed to have missed the point, oh well, I just saw your post saying you're not even 18 yet, so I don't really put any weight in your argument, any 20 year old guy will say anything to a girl, so you'll change your tune when bills start rolling in ... Good luck with your whole being an H deal... https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY
Actually, I don't believe I've ever released the age of my boyfriend. And I was with him when he was unemployed and severely depressed. Love won't change with the bills, but hopefully your shitty attitude will overtime.
And I don't appreciate your slandering my relationship by assuming I'll be left high and dry for a bit of money and that he's saying things to me for now when in reality nothing has happened for him to lie for.
I guessed his age, but if he's over 18, and you're sleeping together he's commiting a crime (it's called statutory rape)...hey maybe you'll last forever; if not, I don't really care... Just make sure you print that comment out and pull it out in 10 years or so, when you pull it out maybe I'll be wrong, but odds are you'll be with someone else by then.
Well I don't know why your first guess was over 18 even though he isn't. And we haven't eve kissed, much less sleep together. It's long distance.
And I won't need to print that comment out because I will be with him. I knew from the moment I met him and so did he.
And odds aren't everything because they can be beat. Otherwise it'd always happen.
Generally when people talk about being "unemployed and depressed" they're not still in high school and living at their parents.. You'll learn the meaning of that phrase when you get a little older and have actual responsibilities. And it's true odds aren't everything, but I didn't know we were talking about a high school sweetheart, those always last forever.
Gee, I'm so sorry. I didn't know that all teenagers have it easy. Some people must be liars when they need to get a job so young to help out their family. I wonder what mine and his situations really are. Oh thank you internet stranger for telling me that teenagers are actually treated like royalty compared to anyone else. And wow, taking care of children so much and helping cook for my parents and siblings and their children isn't a responsibilityat all. I should learn the meaning of the word and gain some real experience.
And I'm soooo sorry a complete stranger who has no knowdlege of me or my partner knows more about how my relationship is going to pan out. A stranger who isn't there to feel the love or chemistry between our words and gazes or hear about our conversations. Its almost like you aren't even there.
Haha... Yeah, so what happens if you don't cook for the family? Does everyone starve or does someone else cook and you get grounded?
You know what happens when you live in your own and can't pay for food? You don't eat! You know what happens when you don't pay rent? You get evicted (medical bills, insurance, gas, electricity, retirement, etc you've gotta pay for them all) ... That's a real responsibility, putting a roof over your head or your kids when you enevitably have them.
But hey you've got it figured out, your boyfriend is so successful, you get to be a H (still like the n word remember) at home. Again good luck with that. Why are you looking for a job when that's all taken care of?
We have a BIG family, and whoever isn't off working is either too old or a child, so they can't cook. If I don't cook someone else has to take time out of their busy day to cook a meal for everyone or spend lots of money on unhealthy takeout.
And you don't have to call Housewife the H word because I compared it to the N word in the way that some people think it's okay to say and some people don't, so stop thinking yourself so high and mighty for that.
And I need a job because like I said I have a big family and so money is tight, and I also want to save up in case in the next few years I actually find out what I want to do and head off to a small community college because the only way I can get into a nice school is scholarship which I don't have the grades for.
Just because I have plans for the future doesn't mean the here and now is taken care of.
i do too, but I can't imagine it all too early. In an ideal world, I'd get started on a good career that I enjoy in sort of early 20s and also find a long term boyfriend at that sort of age. Then marriage sort of mid-late 20s and kids at late 20s or early 30s
I'm going to take that time to find something I'm passionate about to want to do with my life.
So it isn't like I'm waiting for some rich guy to come and be a sugar daddy for me. I have someone who loves me and is willing to support me while I sort myself out.
Also, if you doubted that's what I meant then you wouldn't have had the idea to comment about it and say " as a guy " and " other men " when for all you know I couldn't have been looking for men. So don't worry about my life choices and path because you aren't going to be the guy anyway, as I didn't hint towards you nor any other man who wouldn't want to be with me or would say I'm a gold digger before knowing why I want to do something.
And you don't have to link me to a wikipedia article. If I want to be one I'm obviously not going to be ignorant on the subject matter, and it's not such a difficult concept to grasp.
And not everything has a negative meaning to everyone. Such as the N word. Some black people I know use it as a term of endearment of sorts while others consider is vulgar language that shouldn't be used.
http://tonyanash.com/2009/08/is-the-word-housewife-offensive.html
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/53709/Is-housewife-offensive.html
"Sometimes."
On the tonyanash website, did you even read the comments of their personal views on the word? Tons of them admitted that maybe women over think the word or that they honestly don't find it offensive at all.
And yeah, it's not like I'm just going to laze about. I'm going to clean and cook and buy groceries. And without kids it'd just be me and my boyfriend to support. I never asked for a rich guy or someone who can buy me lavish gifts, I fell in love far before we even had that discussion.
I think you're getting your terms mixed up. I always learned that housewife was an equavilant to stay at home mom besides the former using the image of a woman in the 50s as the main thing people think about it.
What you're thinking of is a trophy wife. Those are the women who sit around all day and get cosmetic surgery when they begin to show their older age.
So ask black people about the N word
Romani people about the G word
And because you've so " kindly " decided to censor yourself, ask housewives about the H word.
You don't get any leverage because you linked us to some posts about some people claiming that some other people think the word is offensive, when that is an opinion and not everyone hold it.
And I don't appreciate your slandering my relationship by assuming I'll be left high and dry for a bit of money and that he's saying things to me for now when in reality nothing has happened for him to lie for.
And I won't need to print that comment out because I will be with him. I knew from the moment I met him and so did he.
And odds aren't everything because they can be beat. Otherwise it'd always happen.
And I'm soooo sorry a complete stranger who has no knowdlege of me or my partner knows more about how my relationship is going to pan out. A stranger who isn't there to feel the love or chemistry between our words and gazes or hear about our conversations. Its almost like you aren't even there.
You know what happens when you live in your own and can't pay for food? You don't eat! You know what happens when you don't pay rent? You get evicted (medical bills, insurance, gas, electricity, retirement, etc you've gotta pay for them all) ... That's a real responsibility, putting a roof over your head or your kids when you enevitably have them.
But hey you've got it figured out, your boyfriend is so successful, you get to be a H (still like the n word remember) at home. Again good luck with that. Why are you looking for a job when that's all taken care of?
And you don't have to call Housewife the H word because I compared it to the N word in the way that some people think it's okay to say and some people don't, so stop thinking yourself so high and mighty for that.
And I need a job because like I said I have a big family and so money is tight, and I also want to save up in case in the next few years I actually find out what I want to do and head off to a small community college because the only way I can get into a nice school is scholarship which I don't have the grades for.
Just because I have plans for the future doesn't mean the here and now is taken care of.