As someone who has dealt with/is dealing with both of these situations, in my opinion, it's worse to watch someone else deal with problems like depression/anxiety/selfharm/etc., because you have to watch this amazing person suffer, and you try as hard as you can to alleviate their pain, but it never works as well as you hoped it would, and you have to watch them destroy themselves, and... God damn, it hurts.
It's hard when you marry someone who has no symptoms or issues and watch them change in front of you over the years. :(
I love him so much but he is no longer the man I married. :)
If you guys want to be f'ed emotionally read The Program. It's about a depression epidemic and shows both sides of the coin (being depressed having loved ones depressed) even if its somewhat exaggerated.
If you guys want to be f'ed emotionally read The Program. It's about a depression epidemic and shows both sides of the coin (being depressed having loved ones depressed) even if its somewhat exaggerated.
My ex boyfriend has severe depression (I think he very easily could be bipolar) and unfortunately that resulted in him taking his frustrations out on me. He had absolutely no control over his emotions and neither he, nor his parents even recognized that he needed help. They usually would blame his problems on me. I wanted to help him in the worst way but he became abusive and poisonous in my life. I hope he gets help.
That's exactly what happened between my parents. I know how hard it is, and I'm really sorry you had to go through that. I hope he gets help and that you know you made the right decision, no matter how hard it was.
Thank you for your support I'm sorry that happened with your parents. It sucked but I was able to leave I couldn't imagine having a parental situation like that.
In my experience, when you are living with somebody with depression, or substance abuse issues, or cancer your feelings and needs are no longer what matters. If you have a bad day and need a little space you are a monster.
That's not true. I have suffered both and your feelings do matter. You can't stop taking care of yourself to help them. As cold as it sounds your first duty is to yourself, you can't help them if you're going to fall apart doing it.
I don't think that was the point. It's more like - everyone wants to help people with mental illnesses. But all those people overlook partners, siblings, children etc. of those with the mental illness. Because they are not the sick ones. They are just collateral damage. But they need help as much as the one suffering from the actual mental illness.
I felt hurt a bit at first because of the same thing summer mentioned, but it's true, and relatives of depressed people need support as much as people like me do. If you feel hurt, I get it, because people with depression often struggle with great amounts of guilt, but we still have to acknowledge that other people can get hurt too. Also, any depressed people, this is not your fault, it's the fault of the illness that you have.
I get that but you still don't tell someone with depression that it's hard to live with them. I've been diagnosed with depression and luckily I've gotten better but in my earlier stage if someone ever told me it was hard to live with me that wouldn't help anything that would've made it worse. No in fact I was told it was hard to live with me and it did make it harder for me and I wouldn't talk to anyone in my house and I would fake like I was magically cured because I didn't want to be the burden more than I felt like I was. I get that it's hard to live with people with depression and mental illness but they already feel like shit about themselves and everything else. Just at least don't make it incredibly obvious to them so they don't feel like an incredible burden for something they can't really fix.
I love him so much but he is no longer the man I married. :)